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coppercrush

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They can't take my joy.

This account is partly an outlet for my text-wall writing on many topics and for workshopping opinions I have nowhere else to share.

Culture > Politics. Fedi has an anti-blackness problem.

I am a longstanding, outspoken luddite who is very critical of our collective responsibility for the toxicity of tech.

Queerness; accessibility; neurodivergence; ecological reciprocity.

Billionnaires shouldn't exist.

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@coppercrush@beige.party avatar coppercrush , to random

The system is working exactly as planned.

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Really spending a lot of time these days wishing people had just voted for the amazingly qualified black woman.

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The foundation of my loving relationships is mutually asking questions about each other's experiences and interests.

@Autistics

@coppercrush@beige.party avatar coppercrush , to random

One of my absolute favorite films is Occulus, and to me, fundamentally, its about being betrayed by your sibling, which just hit me after many watches over many years, as central to its importance to me.

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I want to hear queer peoples takes on the evolution and end of Alexis and Ted's relationship on Schitt's Creek.

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As a society we really don't value intelligence unless it's the specific type of intelligence that makes a lot of money which is a psychopathic subtype of intelligence.

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Oh my goodness gracious

@coppercrush@beige.party avatar coppercrush , to random

Will Ferrell's character in Elf is autistic.

@coppercrush@beige.party avatar coppercrush , to random

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Sapolsky Thursday, not too painful. https://youtu.be/r5I-yAsXVJo
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@autistics

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@punishmenthurts oof im with you its just an offshoot of sports talk radio which is terrible for any subject that actually matters

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I would argue that the defining characteristic of an authoritarian system is the elimination of freedom of the press. This is the issue that I will be watching the most, as an indicator of where things stand.

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  1. Why do you love plants and how do you interact with plants in your life (intentionally/background)?

  2. What makes learning about plants/ecology accessible/inaccessible to you (ie compare with birding)?

  3. Do you prefer a formal or informal teaching environment, and why?

  4. What are some subtopics relating to native plants that are of interest to you?

  5. Would you prefer to learn to ID plants with or without phone apps?

  6. How many plants would you be comfortable learning to ID in a 1 hour session?

@coppercrush@beige.party avatar coppercrush , to random

Brewing a cup of coffee to help me find my missing cup of coffee.

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    coppercrush ,
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    @JessTheUnstill i think this is one of the - not talked about - reasons why there are so few black people on Fedi.

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    @JessTheUnstill

    Bear with me because its hard to give a complete answer and I hope you give me the benefit of the doubt because holy hell this issue is complicated. I'll do my best, as a white observer.

    To give a 'sound bite' answer, this place can be a lot like a golf course, very prim and rules oriented and dare-i-say uppity, and black people don't want to hang out at a 'golf course'. I a black academic account make the comment once, stating 'this place is lacking black joy', as an explanation for the small population, and that really clicked for me. It goes way beyond moderation - it's a culture issue, and the white culture here not only does not appreciate, on the whole, black culture, but also seeks to actively police any culture that deviates from their own.

    This place is very white, the culture is very white, and the cultural rules structure reflects that (which is a huge problem without an algorithm). I'm thinking about all the ways in which black culture is policed by white culture in person (hair, language, mannerisms, clothing, etc). The same is true in online communities, and it potentially could feel worse in some ways because there's this expectation of anonymity and freedom online.

    Black people online want a break from all the rules they have to follow to exist in white society. So coming to Fedi in contrast to other social media, there has to be this culture shock when it comes to things like CWs and alt-text, for instance (these are the obvious examples, but it goes way deeper to general policing/ scolding). Because there is no algorithm, any baked-in cultural anti-blackness means that black accounts have no way of getting reach - they are forced to conform to the existing white-dominated boost structure. Accounts that don't immediately conform to these rules are at a huge disadvantage.

    To be clear, I'm not arguing against the use of Alt and CWs - these are very neat accessibility and moderation tools, but these tools were largely built (or at least are presently implemented) with a white user base in mind. I frankly find the idea of a white person badgering a black person to CW politics extremely offensive. There is a reason why you don't see black accounts using CWs: in their day to day lives they have to go out of their way to make white people comfortable with their blackness, so they will be damned if they have to protect white people online from their daily experiences. This is a problematic, not talked about component to the conversation around CWs. This applies to any of the types of policing that is seen on the platform, which I believe disproportionately affects and targets non-white users.

    Back to your original post, Fedi has a scold problem. And, I'm imagining, from the perspective of a black person, that is really off-putting, to say the least. I believe that black people in particular are vulnerable and repeatedly exposed to this type of behavior policing that, whatever the intent, in practice keeps this place more white.

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    @JessTheUnstill yw! ditto 'the personal is political' with CWs and hidden disability.

    @coppercrush@beige.party avatar coppercrush , to random

    I ask a question. I click on your site to find an answer. A gigantic banner pops up selling your integrated product. I leave your website, never to return.

    @coppercrush@beige.party avatar coppercrush , to random

    Going for the decision that has the quicker payoff, because I need the payoff right now.

    @coppercrush@beige.party avatar coppercrush , to random

    One day at a fucking time my friends.

    @tante@tldr.nettime.org avatar tante , to random

    We keep seeing startups who want to replace something valuable (therapy, counseling, tutoring, artistic expression) with some tech bullshit under the banner of democratization. But why do we need to invest so much in bad tech that doesn't work instead of just giving people access to what they need?

    This is a sign for how fucking atrophied our mental muscles are. How limited our space for thinking about how things should be.

    You want to democratize "going to therapy"? Make it "free" as in paid by socialized healthcare. You want to democratize "making art"? Give people money and free time to express themselves.

    None of these things are meaningfully addressed through tech. It's always about the political struggle to give people what they need and deserve.

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    @tante rooting for our tech addiction to eventually hit bottom so we can finally start caring about other things.

    @coppercrush@beige.party avatar coppercrush , to random

    I need a remake of the show Dexter with a female lead.

    @coppercrush@beige.party avatar coppercrush , to random

    Given how coordinated the regimes response was in using their propaganda machine to label the protests as 'enemies of America', that should tell you that they believe they are a legitimate threat and should be taken seriously.

    @alice@lgbtqia.space avatar alice , to random

    I'm beginning to think I might be kinda gay.

    coppercrush ,
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    @alice 'ask your doctor if being gay may be right for you'

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    @JessTheUnstill saw someone quote jwz yesterday: 'switching to linux costs you nothing if your time is worthless'. as if people don't have better things to do than obsess over tech constantly. the tech culture bubble is gross.

    @coppercrush@beige.party avatar coppercrush , to random

    Subtooting myself.

    @coppercrush@beige.party avatar coppercrush , to random

    My daily experience with fedi: i love it here i hate it here i love it here i hate it here i love it here

    @coppercrush@beige.party avatar coppercrush , to random

    My favorite thing about fedi is when someone favorites two of my posts, and one of them is more obscure in that they went looking for it.

    @coppercrush@beige.party avatar coppercrush , to random

    Nothing puts me in a better mood than tromping through the woods.

    @Impossible_PhD@hachyderm.io avatar Impossible_PhD , to random

    One of the things my therapist said to me while I was coming to terms with my autism and thought the symptoms were mostly the same as for my cPTSD was:

    "Well, the world hasn't produced an untraumatized autistics person since psychology was founded."

    I think about that a lot.

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    @Impossible_PhD i really struggle with this as when i try and think of myself as potentially being an autist, all i see is layers of trauma. i can explain every 'quirk' about myself with trauma, so how would i know how to see the autism?

    @coppercrush@beige.party avatar coppercrush , to random

    Allow yourself to feel a little optimism today, for a treat.

    @mcc@mastodon.social avatar mcc , to random

    Don't think I'm ever going to convince Fediverse to get into hip hop but that doesn't mean I'm going to stop trying

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    @mcc

    My 'Stranded on an Island' Mixtape:

    A Report to the Shareholders, Run the Jewels
    Been Afraid, P.O.S
    Cassius, Halo
    Don't Give It Away, FreeSol
    Hold It Now, Talib Kweli
    Jaded, Doomtree
    Jazz, Mick Jenkins
    Lost Ones, Ms. Hill
    Sun Down, Anonymuz
    Therapy Session, NF
    Trippin' at the Disco, People Under the Stairs
    Walkin, Denzel Curry
    The Wren, Doomtree

    @coppercrush@beige.party avatar coppercrush , to random

    If 10% of people in the US changed their minds, we would live in a completely different country. 5% would make a massive difference. When I think about it like that, this seems much less insurmountable.

    @coppercrush@beige.party avatar coppercrush , to random

    Just out here, trying to be more like you.

    @alice@lgbtqia.space avatar alice , to random

    Omg, I found this at Goodwill yesterday, and I wanted it so bad! ...but the ass had cigarette burns on it 😞

    I should have just got it and put cute patches on the butt.

    Alice stands with one hand on their hip, in a sky blue, fuzzy, Hello Kitty onesie. The hood is up and it has a plush bow on it. The onesie is covered in disembodied Hello Kitty heads.
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    @meadow @eruonna @alice @SordidAmok this may be an opportunity to install a butt-flap, because who doesn't need one of those?

    @coppercrush@beige.party avatar coppercrush , to random

    To me, preserving a sense of normalcy right now is really important (as long as we don't lose sight of the context we are living in).

    @coppercrush@beige.party avatar coppercrush , to random

    A major impediment to finding people I can relate to is that I don't feel comfortable sharing what my honest experience is like. I'm like 'why can't I find my people' while simultaneously being really cagey. Have cake, eat cake.

    @pluralistic@mamot.fr avatar pluralistic , to random

    Today's threads (a thread)

    Inside: The real (economic) AI apocalypse is nigh; and more!

    Archived at: https://pluralistic.net/2025/09/27/econopocalypse/

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    Image: TechCrunch https://commons.wikimedia.org/wiki/File:Sam_Altman_-_TechCrunch_Disrupt_SF_2017_(36522988343).jpg CC BY 2.0 https://creativecommons.org/licenses/by/2.0/deed.en -- Cryteria (modified) https://commons.wikimedia.org/wiki/File:HAL9000.svg CC BY 3.0 https://creativecommons.org/licenses/by/3.0/deed.en
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    @pluralistic
    The entirety of the US economy in the 21st century has been a tech bubble, and AI is the thing that is finally going to cause it to burst. Its perfectly ironic and fitting that they created a technology that literally eats itself and its forebears.

    The monopolists have finally run dry of easy shit to sell us junkies. Currently we are snorting baking soda and watching Bluey while they consolidate everything they can politically before we finally hit bottom. As painful as it is going to be, the only way out is through. Politically, its going to open a lot of doors. Sobriety can be both beautiful and deadly.

    @alice@lgbtqia.space avatar alice , to random

    I haven't done one of these in a while, so here goes!

    Hey , + and folx! Are you an expert in something? Do you have a fancy degree or a lot of experience in some field/hobby? Do you like to infodump about it? Then out yourself in the replies below!

    I'll start. Hi 👋 I'm Alice. I'm multi-queer (pan/bisexual and nonbinary). I'm an expert lockpicker and data scientist, and I have an education in computer science, psychology, and statistics.

    Your turn 😊

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    @alice Hi Alice, :blobcatcaged: queer disabled plant community ecologist analyzing large datasets on the flora of my region and generally doing the nature, being the plant.

    @gerrymcgovern@mastodon.green avatar gerrymcgovern , to random

    "When we repeatedly retrieve information, our brains form durable memory schemata and neural manifolds. These structures are indispensable for intuitive reasoning, error-checking and smooth skill execution. But if we default to “just Google it,” those processes so fundamental for innovation and critical thinking may never fully develop, particularly in the smartphone generation."

    https://policyoptions.irpp.org/2025/09/ai-memory/

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    @gerrymcgovern I think this also relates to the intergenerational divide, the breakdown of communication, and our inability/unwillingness to ask for help. It has disrupted the learning process that connects people of different experience levels, reducing our ability to form relationships. Just google it has replaced asking for help or collaborating to solve a problem. It has made us less patient and less accepting of differences in learning styles/backgrounds, which is particularly bad for disabled/marginalized/neurodivergent/poor folk who were never silicon valleys target audience to begin with.

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    @gerrymcgovern back to our nature <3

    @Impossible_PhD@hachyderm.io avatar Impossible_PhD , to random

    A friendly, gentle PSA:

    Especially if you consume a lot of news these days, please be aware that all of the fear and uncertainty that is scrawled across every headline and is the basis for everything coming out of Washington activates the limbic system in your brain. That's the deep animal part of your noggin that puts you into a survival-panic. The evolutionary purpose of this system is to shut down the logical parts of your brain and make you run, now, to survive.

    The actual, literal objective of the firehose of terror they're drowning us in is to put as many people as possible into limbic system burnout, a state of long-term, perhaps permanent, limbic system activation. So, please, check your timeline and your posting habits. Consider the ratios in there of joy to fear--and adjust things toward joy, going forward, if you need to.

    They need us to feel vulnerable all the time.

    If you're in limbic burnout, you can't fight back.

    https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/29175078/

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    @Impossible_PhD

    I love how you framed this - very trauma-aware.

    @GurgelSegrillo@mastodon.ie avatar GurgelSegrillo , to actuallyadhd group

    Wondering how my ND fam deals with RSD while participating in social media. Feeling like it's been triggered too many times here lately. Like most comments are to correct me, take me down a peg vibe... or plain ignoring ofc. And I am writing on a second language, don't keep posting about my work (and I am self-employed dependant on sales). So incredibly frustrating most of the time. If I give up, here comes more isolation. How do you do it? actuallyautistic@a.gup.pe icon ActuallyAutistic group actuallyadhd@a.gup.pe icon actuallyadhd group @actuallyaudhd

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    @GurgelSegrillo actuallyautistic@a.gup.pe icon ActuallyAutistic group actuallyadhd@a.gup.pe icon actuallyadhd group @actuallyaudhd

    I've read most of the thread and responses and I think you are trying to start a really important conversation. I think so much of what you describe is how social media has 'destroyed' our ability to healthily converse with people who aren't exactly like us. Completely relate to what you are describing with RSD.

    I have been taking breaks from this site recently and have mostly stopped bothering trying to comment because effort in does not remotely equal result out. Then again, I keep coming back, because its something I want to figure out and I want to have an online social life. I want to have meaningful conversation and I think the culture of these platforms is to favor scroll scroll scroll and move on, don't engage. Or only find people who are exactly like you, who interact in exactly the same way (the classic echo chamber). So many of the people who do engage learned to do so in a snarky, critical context (I'm not immune to this). The good thing is every once and awhile I'll find a really pleasant exception and I'm trying to figure out how to have more of those.

    I'm also from an awful individualistic culture where we make things so much worse for ourselves and social media has brought out the worst of these tendencies. I've always wondered what social media from collectivist cultures is like.

    @_elena@mastodon.social avatar _elena , to random

    🚲 my little one is learning to ride a bike without training wheels - a marvel to observe and she is so proud of her progress.

    🐈 I’m the first one to wake up in the house and thus I’m in charge of feeding my sister-in-law’s cat. All of a sudden, he’s super affectionate with me and follows me everywhere.

    ❤️ 5-year-old niece told me “you’re my favorite auntie”

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    @_elena love that you are sharing these this hashtag is a wonderful piece of fedi-goodness

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    @_elena it was a really great introduction to fedi when other aspects of it were confounding me. its such a consistent community 💚 i need to get back to posting with it

    @Impossible_PhD@hachyderm.io avatar Impossible_PhD , to random

    Hey.

    Hey, you.

    Yeah, you. The person reading this. You, specifically.

    Be messier and weirder. Fuck up more. And cut people a break when they're messy and weird and fuck up, if you can.

    Queerness is about being messy.

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    @Impossible_PhD i'm in the early stages of figuring out what it means to be queer 'culturally' (the number one i'm trying to internalize now is that it means freely expressing uninhibited joy, and sharing that with others) and this is a great reminder. 💚 i believe that we can be so much weirder. we can do this.

    @coppercrush@beige.party avatar coppercrush , to ActuallyAutistic group

    I need suggestions for media with main characters that humanize . Not inspiration porn. Not tragedies. Just characters with disabilities doing their best to live their lives. Genre doesn't matter. characters a plus.

    actuallyautistic@a.gup.pe icon ActuallyAutistic group

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    @praetor @superflippy actuallyautistic@a.gup.pe icon ActuallyAutistic group agreed about how its portrayed and ignored. the superhero trope is frequently that someone is traumatized in order to gain superpowers (and then motivates them). talk about a toxic way of setting aside the actual experiences people with PTSD.

    I actually think the show House does a pretty good job with humanizing chronic pain based disability, and even though its not explicitly PTSD, theres a lot of overlap with pain and trauma.

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