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TheBreadmonkey , 2 days ago to random

When my 18 year old was very little, if I ever dropped peas on the floor and said to her oh no I've pea'd on the floor, she would laugh hysterically at this extremely funny joke. However now she just calls me a twat. 👍

DziadekMick , 9 days ago to random

Wisbech: Racist Capital of Britain
(Twinned with Montgomery, AL)

#RidiculousTownSlogans #HashtagGames

TheBreadmonkey , 2 months ago to random

Just in case anyone else also woke up in the middle of the night desperate to know how many hummus-related deaths there had been in the UK, I'm thrilled to report that the answer is zero. Statistically improbable and suspiciously..... none whatsoever. Three or four I could have lived with. People toasting pitta, burning themselves then falling backward out of a window. Slipping on some loose hummus and falling into a lion enclosure perhaps. But literally none at all. Clearly Big Hummus is at play here.

GetCarter , 2 months ago to random

A very still Loch Carron (North Atlantic) yesterday morning.

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stux , 2 months ago to random

So far not a single Russian propaganda bot used mstdn.social for spam 💪

Try us.. we're ready :nkoHammer:

TheBreadmonkey , 3 months ago (edited 3 months ago) to random

The problem with Indiana Jones is that they've used the most incredible MacGuffins so there's really nowhere else to go except aliens and time travel. How can you possibly follow up the Ark of the Covenant. You can't. Unless.......

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Holy_Prepuce

dansup , 3 months ago to random

I owe so much to you, the fediverse.

Back in 2020, I came out as gay, and announced it here first, before telling anyone IRL.

You guys helped me gain the courage to tell everyone IRL, and I'll forever be grateful for that.

Y'all are pretty awesome ❤️

https://mastodon.social/@dansup/104305537913235199

dangillmor , 3 months ago to random

One of the most corrupt organizations on the planet launches a "peace prize" whose first recipient will surely be the most corrupt political leader on the planet. https://www.pbs.org/newshour/amp/world/fifa-to-award-new-peace-prize-at-world-cup-draw-in-washington

GetCarter , 3 months ago to random

Dog walking at low tide.

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Uair , 4 months ago to Discworld

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DziadekMick , 4 months ago to random

Hadn’t seen this excellent take before.

Seen on @RosethornRangerTTV

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GetCarter , 4 months ago to random

My better half has been using her pastel pencils again...

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theautisticcoach , 5 months ago to ActuallyAutistic group

Time is sold to us as linear - hours to budget, ration, and spend.

But autistic & ADHD humans experience time as spiral - looping, collapsing, stretching, flowing.

We don’t move through time in straight lines.

We circle.

This isn’t just a “quirk”.

It’s neurology.

We aren’t wired for clocks & deadlines, or for systems that equate worth with productivity.

When we’re forced into linear, neuronormative time - we don’t adapt.

We get dysregulated.

And it’s not just non-autistics demanding this.

Plenty of ND people absorb those values and enforce them too - on themselves, on others.

Performing productivity.

Neuronormativity.

Pretending time is money.

Punishing those who can’t comply.

But when we contort ourselves into linear time, the cost is collapse.

Meltdowns.

Shutdowns.

Burnout.

We aren’t failing time.

Neuronormative time is failing us.

We are geared for rhythms.

For spirals.

For intensity & rest, flow & pause.

We can sustain much - but not when forced into the straight lines of capitalism’s clock.

Liberation begins with honoring our own temporalities.

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lifewithtrees , 5 months ago to ActuallyAutistic group

Reassuring myself can be difficult sometimes.

I heard on a podcast to try doing in third person using one’s own name or even like “Dude, it’s going to be ok. You’ve got this.”

So I’ve been trying it.

And honestly it has been helping!

Anyone else doing/trying this as well?

What’s your experience been like?

#audhd #adhd #selfcare

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randahl , 5 months ago to random

Russian political blindness in a nutshell:

Russian diplomat in Austria Mr. Ulyanov states that we should stop discussing which peace keeping troops to send to Ukraine, because “Moscow made it absolutely clear that the deployment of foreign military contingents in Ukraine is totally ruled out.”

So Russia — a sovereign nation — can invite North Korean soldiers to kill Ukrainians.

But if Ukraine — a sovereign nation — wants to invite European peace keepers, then Putin gets to decide they can’t.

anneapplebaum , 5 months ago to random

From the Telegram channel of RT, Russian state media. A Russian assault vehicle, now flying two flags

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pathfinder , 6 months ago to ActuallyAutistic group

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A couple of posts today made me think about the connection between masking and imposter syndrome, especially for those of us who have realised late that we are autistic. I have long believed that there are essentially two aspects to the way that we masked. Masking ourselves from the world and masking ourselves from ourselves and that both of these contributed to being able to stay below the radar of realising what we were for so long. But, perhaps, the most important one, was not the face we showed the world, mostly because I doubt if that was ever as good as we thought it was, but the mirror we learnt to see ourselves in.

That internal masking of ourselves can take many forms.

I thought it was just me.

But, everyone does it this way.

No one else is bothered, or even seems to be noticing. I must be just imagining it, or too sensitive. It can't be real.

I've tried talking about it, but no one took me seriously, they thought I was joking. It's obviously just me. I really must be broken, or mad.

I can't see myself anywhere, I can't be right.

I can't be this way, no one else is.

I must be wrong.

And so much else...

So much of it is denial and disbelieve, as much as anything, and it doesn't go away once we begin to realise the truth. It doesn't magically lose its power. It has to be faced and defeated as a deliberate act of de-masking, that, perhaps, never really ends, because we've carried and tended to it for too long. And, all the time, it is a voice of doubt and so-called reason in our minds that can fuel our imposter syndrome. That can make us doubt our journey, our revelations, our truth. Because that was always its job. It is the reason we created it. To mask ourselves from the truth. Because, it wasn't the truth we saw, or were able to accept.

This isn't to say, by any means, that it is the only bone our imposter syndrome will chew on. But, for those of us who are late realising our truth, it is perhaps a particularly meaty one. Because it has been with us for so long, our only answer to the darkness we lived in and the only world we could see.

#Autism
#ActuallyAutistic

DziadekMick , 6 months ago to random

“Gaza. I feel it particularly because I am Jewish. I know how much wickedness and cruelty were meted out to Jews in my lifetime. I was born in ’41 at the height of the Holocaust.
…
And so my heart is broken and I think the terrible thing I have to face is that Hitler won. He changed us. He made us like him.”

—Miriam Margolyes

https://dorseteye.com/hitler-won-he-made-us-like-him-miriam-margolyes-and-bob-geldof-slam-zionist-jews-and-israel/

gordoooo_z , 6 months ago to actuallyadhd group

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Do you find the the library an effective place to work or study?

When I'm having trouble focusing at home, I usually try to find somewhere else that might be more conducive to productivity. Usually I find the library is the least effective, Starbucks kinda depends, but not really, and Tim Horton's, moreso. Ignoring the fact that there's an outlet for nearly every table, I've decided that this has to do with the dull roar of conversation. Libraries always feel far too quiet, and it leaves a lot of room for my own distracting thoughts.

Curious to hear other people's experiences. Might also be interesting if you share whether you identify as austistic, ADHD, or all of the above. Idk. More than anything, just curious to know if this is a more common experience than I think it is.

pathfinder , 6 months ago to ActuallyAutistic group

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There is always a price.

I suppose that this is as close to being a truism as anything. Every act comes with a price tag, for, I'm going to guess, everybody. Even if it's just the effort required to do the task. What does my head in, is how much more autistics (and others, I'm aware) seem to have to pay. It's why we talk so much about "spoons", or energy levels, or indeed the myriad other ways we have to describe how draining existence is and how important it is to monitor this. Because we know how quickly we can drain ourselves and hard it can be, at times, to replenish ourselves.

What doesn't help is that so often even the easiest task requires a level of planning and micromanagement that would horrify most people in your life, if they could ever understand our need to do it. But how do you explain that you have to plan everything ahead in order to be able to even be able to do it? That even the simplest task has to be battle planned to the last detail in order to be completed. The timing, the preparation, the steps to completion. The process to go through, to even start it. Not to mention the planning and thought and effort that has to go into anything more complex.

And then afterwards the price comes due, for all that work and the stress and anxiety that often surrounds it and we're left again with the thought of, was it worth it? And the knowledge that it never ends and never gets easier.

This slightly venty post was brought to you by me having a paying the piper day, for the work I had done last week and all the weeks of work that led up to it.

#Autism
#ActuallyAutistic

junesim63 , 6 months ago to random

"If the answer to Britain’s first Black female MP parsing the lived experience of racism is to suspend her and confect another political controversy, then the message is that you may not ever say anything difficult at all"

Good article from Jason Okundaye.

#DianeAbbott #Race #Racism #UKPolitics #Media
The Diane Abbott row shows how impoverished Britain’s conversations about race have become | Jason Okundaye | The Guardian
https://www.theguardian.com/commentisfree/2025/jul/18/diane-abbott-britain-race-conversations-minorities

filmfreak75 , 6 months ago to ActuallyAutistic group

ActuallyAutistic group @autistics #ActuallyAutistic asking the gallery for thoughts on this language used in a recent email to me asking me to do something:

"Does that sound OK to you?”

murdoc , 7 months ago to ActuallyAutistic group

So there's this idea that some of us subscribe to that some types of neurodivergent people served some sort of evolutionary purpose. My theory goes like this: Neurotypical people are very flexible when growing up. By that I mean that they can be taught anything, raised to believe anything. This is one of the evolutionary advantages of human beings. By being open to any new information like this, humans can more easily assimilate and pass down new information learned, and in this way civilization develops. Other animals don't really do this, or if they do, not nearly as much. So it's not just our intelligence that sets us apart from other animals, it's that our brains rely less on pre-programmed instinct and more on general learning. (Yes, there is still some instinct in there, just less than other animals.) And as the human matures, that adaptability to learn new information withers, for from an evolutionary standpoint, if what they learned was counterproductive enough, it would surely shorten their lifespan and their ability to pass along that information.

But this particular trait has a failing, and that is that since we can learn anything, that means that what we learn might be erroneous. This is where we get a lot of the early religions, legends, and mythologies that people believe just as much as they believe anything else. Much of it is harmless, or at least not very harmful to one's own tribe. But if it is, it can threaten the survivability of the tribe.

This is where I hypothesize that neurodiversity, and in particular autism, comes in. Autistic people are not quite as flexible growing up. We have more focused interests that can hamper our abilities in other areas yes, but there is also our apparent predilection for logic and reason. There is also our inherent resistance to simply accepting things we are taught, as well as one against conforming for social reasons. Given this, I think that our evolutionary role was as a defence against problematic beliefs, ones so dangerous that they threatened the survival of the whole tribe. Unfortunately I don't know enough about anthropology to support this with historical examples, but it does fit with what I know about psychology.

One of the reasons I bring this up isn't just to tell people about this theory. It's because I happened upon a very interesting thing that I thought resonated with it surprisingly well, along with an amusing coincidence. It's just fiction, so it's only purpose is amusement, but I wanted to share it anyway. It just needed the previous explanation for context.

I've included a portion of a page from a tabletop role playing game called Cybergeneration. You don't need to know anything about the game to understand this except that it is science fiction, and that it was written in the 1990s. It is never explained exactly who it is that is speaking these lines, but there are many implications elsewhere in the game that it is artificial intelligences (real, general AI, not the sad LLMs we have in real life). That being said, I could picture this dialogue happening between two autistic people. The fact that autistic people sometimes are described as acting or talking like computers only strengthens that connection. And the fact that I rediscovered this passage this year is what makes it the really amusing part.

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GetCarter , 7 months ago to random

A bit of drama here this morning. The Lucy Mary was here overnight and when she left she got caught up in a load of fishing line. I didn't see it, but I hear it was all a bit 'Mr Bean'.

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26pglt , 7 months ago to ActuallyAutistic group

Seeing #giftedness as part of #neurodiversity makes so much sense to me.

Uncommon talent in some areas makes it possible for us to ‘wing it’ in others. If nurtured only for our gifts we may grow into people with huge gaps in our skill sets as humans. Think ‘creative genius bathed in adulation who treats his (it’s always he) wife & kids like shirt’, or ‘smart kid who cruises through school then crashes in their job or PhD program when challenged by something that doesn’t come easily’.

When our identity is formed around our talent & successes we never to learn how to value failing. How else do we learn compassion?

All my life there have been heaps of things I couldn’t do (I’m dyspraxic & socially clueless), but failing in my areas of strength came late to me. Each of these failures has enriched my life enormously.

Would love to hear about other #nd folx’ experience.

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#diversity #SelfCompassion #JustAsWeAre

https://www.abc.net.au/news/2025-06-24/what-its-like-to-be-a-child-prodigy/105437564?utm_source=abc_news_app&utm_medium=content_shared&utm_campaign=abc_news_app&utm_content=other

undefined_variable , 7 months ago to ActuallyAutistic group

So, I think it's time to kick up my t-shirt game and get something else than plain, black t-shirts. Any suggestions for t-shirts designed and sold by ND folks? Could use some ND flags and such too. I'm within EU, so that would be a plus, but not a dealbreaker, could order from outside too.

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#ActuallyAutistic #AuDHD

gbhnews , 8 months ago (edited 8 months ago) to random

And now for the poll of the day.

pick yr berries while ye may

mayz , 8 months ago to ActuallyAutistic group

I found a new job (have i mentioned that i got fired at the last one?) which so far has been both nice and stressful.
but it is a lot more satisfying than the last one, which is nice and overall makes me feel better. I do not feel as ashamed to talk about what i do anymore.

It’s a small company and the people there are very nice which is great.
We all work mostly in silence and do not talk a lot which is both welcome and unknown territory for me. I kinda want to feel a bit more connected because otherwise i just feel like a stranger but on the other hand i do enjoy not having to make small talk.

One of my co-workers is autistic. An information which was provided to me during the job interview because they informed me of basic “do’s and don’ts” e.g his struggle with sudden changes and an appeal to kindness.

I did not have the courage to disclose my own autism.
I was not sure if it was safe and i masked so heavily in the interview that i was afraid they would not believe me.
My colleague is nice and polite and honestly I only notice the symptoms because I studied the diagnostic criteria and personal accounts of autistic people.

My mom did not understand why i didn’t say anything in the job interview. But i’m so riddled with self-doubt that i just struggle to convincingly convey the benefits it might bring to a potential employer. I felt a bit sad that i’m not at that point in my journey yet.

sigh

adulting is so hard

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hosford42 , 8 months ago to ActuallyAutistic group

I'm curious, folks. I'm autistic and a (mostly former) musician and songwriter. I just boosted a post that mentioned "autistic music", and now I'm curious what kinds of music my fellow autistic folks tend to listen to. Not necessarily artists, per se (though it's fine to use them as examples) but more the styles/genres you prefer.

I personally like music that (1) isn't overly noisy, using noise in the static sense, e.g. lots of cymbals crashing, damaged or overloaded mics, or background hisses, as opposed to simply auditory business, (2) is different in some way -- a trippy melody, a novel tonal structure, a weird time signature, an unusual lyric style, etc. -- and (3) is, importantly, IN TUNE.

Radiohead is my favorite. The Beatles are awesome, too, though they can stray a bit when it comes to the noise criterion. There are also a lot of artists/groups that have just one single song I love dearly, even though I don't like their music in general.

#ActuallyAutistic
#music
#MusicTaste
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EmilyMoranBarwick , 8 months ago to ActuallyAutistic group

Hey. I don’t know how to share this here. I don't know how to "frame" it for Mastodon...

But I want to share it. Because I know other people out there hurt. I know how isolating it is.

So, this isn't snappy & well-packaged. But neither am I. And neither is pain.

I hope this somehow helps someone feel less alone in their pain: https://fromemily.com/open-letter-to-my-body-and-public-apology/

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#ChronicIllness #HealthCare #ChronicPain #spoonie #ActuallyAutistic #ActuallyADHD #blog #writing #MentalHealth #FromEmily

nixCraft , 8 months ago to random

Can't stand those people who insist on telling you every single detail of their day, no matter how boring or repetitive.

Stupid #linux log files.

aral , 8 months ago (edited 8 months ago) to random

Happy #Eurovision day everyone!

Come celebrate Israel’s entry and its genocide of the Palestinian people in an event whose main sponsor is an Israeli company.

Because nothing says love and acceptance like loving and accepting genocide.

#israel #genocide #Palestine #Gaza #ethnicCleansing #warCrimes #starvation #apartheid #settlerColonialism #Europe #EU #complicity #Eurovisión #eurovision2025 #esc2025

18+ hosford42 , 8 months ago to ActuallyAutistic group

I'm autistic and I have considered suicide due to sensory overload. Have you?

#Autism
#ActuallyAutistic
#SensoryOverload
#Suicide
#SuicidePrevention
#SelfHarm
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Daojoan , 9 months ago to random

Right-wing masculinity is just men who are terrified of intimacy cosplaying as Spartans.
Their deepest fear is being asked how they feel and not being able to answer without punching drywall.

hosford42 , 9 months ago to ActuallyAutistic group

"Studies have shown that children begin to identify and punish autistic traits from a young age. Human beings reinforce social norms by hurting people who break them."

If you want to understand why autism is a disability and not just a quirk or a difference, reread this quote until the words find a permanent home in your brain.

"Human beings reinforce social norms by hurting people who break them."

"Human beings reinforce social norms by hurting people who break them."

"Human beings reinforce social norms by hurting people who break them."

This happens every. Single. Day.

https://observer.co.uk/news/first-person/article/laurie-penny-autism

#ActuallyAutistic
#Disability
#DisabilityRights
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