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TheBreadmonkey , 2 months ago to random

Who will tell me I'm a handsome big strong clever boy now ChatGPT is down 😭

LornaPeel , 6 months ago to bookstodon group

A manor house mystery romance crackling with sexual tension, family secrets, and ancestral intrigue.

Amazon - http://mybook.to/ASummerOfSecrets
Other Retailers - https://books2read.com/ASummerOfSecrets

#ASummerOfSecretsByLornaPeel #BooksByLornaPeel #Romance #Mystery #Genealogy #MysteryRomance #GenealogyFiction #FamilyHistory #KindleUnlimited bookstodon group

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Tim_McTuffty , 6 months ago to ActuallyAutistic group

Diary of an AuDHD Squirrel. Day 645 , Sunday 03/08/2025

Sunday started around 8am after a really rough night with this latest ailment making finding a comfy position all but impossible.

I think a trip to the docs tomorrow is definitely on the cards, if only so I can get some sleep!

Today has been a quiet day, reading & catching up on some of Mrs S’s TV shows.

There have been moments thru the day when the pain actually stopped for a short while, which was a blessing, but these periods of respite have only lasted about an hour.

Final Thoughts.

I discovered @randahl @mastodon.social has blocked me for some reason, we’ve been mutuals for a while & why he has blocked me is a mystery. No good deed goes unpunished it seems.
It really tied a ribbon on an otherwise rubbish day.

I hope I can get some decent sleep tonight, but my whole body hurts at the moment so I don’t hold out much hope.

Still stiff upper lip & all that!

Thank you to all those who are helping me on this journey, in a myriad different ways. I am thankful to each & every one of you! 🫂 🫶🐿️🖖

@actuallyautistic
#TimsASDjourney #ActuallyAutistic #Neurospicy #TheMammutMoves

emilymoranbarwick , 6 months ago to ActuallyAutistic group

✨New #introduction for my new Mastodon home:

Hi, I'm Emily! I'm interested in the human side of the web—using it to connect, not consume.

Among other things, I'm...

— an #artist, #activist, #writer, educator, speaker
— #ActuallyAutistic #AUDHD (#Autistic with an #ADHD booster pack 🚀)
— seeking community (human-to-human stuff!)
— excited (and terrified!) to be here

🖥️ I have an "okay enough" #website that would be thrilled to see you (it has BIG feelings, like me!): https://fromemily.com

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Sci_Fi_FanGirl , 7 months ago to ActuallyAutistic group

A recent toot around here made me think about #giftedness and #autism. There's a lot of overlap. As there is between autism and #cPTSD.

So it got me wondering how you know that you're autistic and not, say, gifted and traumatized. Or autistic and traumatized, rather than gifted. Or if it matters at all (we're struggling anyways, aren't we?). Could accomodations and support even be that specific?

What's your take on this?

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EmilyMoranBarwick , 8 months ago to ActuallyAutistic group

Hey. I don’t know how to share this here. I don't know how to "frame" it for Mastodon...

But I want to share it. Because I know other people out there hurt. I know how isolating it is.

So, this isn't snappy & well-packaged. But neither am I. And neither is pain.

I hope this somehow helps someone feel less alone in their pain: https://fromemily.com/open-letter-to-my-body-and-public-apology/

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#ChronicIllness #HealthCare #ChronicPain #spoonie #ActuallyAutistic #ActuallyADHD #blog #writing #MentalHealth #FromEmily

elight , 9 months ago to ActuallyAutistic group

ActuallyAutistic group Curious how others refer to this condition and themselves. Do you "have" autism, are you "autisti, both, or something else?

I find the second most relatable, particularly as we are a "we"—a subculture based on identifying as neurologically similar.

I tend to bristle at little at the first as this indicates it's a condition. "Having" implies the possibility of ephemerality. We are autistic for life.

I didn't feel this way about ADHD, perhaps oddly.

hosford42 , 9 months ago to ActuallyAutistic group

"Studies have shown that children begin to identify and punish autistic traits from a young age. Human beings reinforce social norms by hurting people who break them."

If you want to understand why autism is a disability and not just a quirk or a difference, reread this quote until the words find a permanent home in your brain.

"Human beings reinforce social norms by hurting people who break them."

"Human beings reinforce social norms by hurting people who break them."

"Human beings reinforce social norms by hurting people who break them."

This happens every. Single. Day.

https://observer.co.uk/news/first-person/article/laurie-penny-autism

#ActuallyAutistic
#Disability
#DisabilityRights
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DoomsdaysCW , 9 months ago to ActuallyAutistic group

So, apparently, there's a study linking left-handedness and both-handedness (as opposed to right-handedness) with a number of conditions -- including #Autism. Just curious as to where others stand on this. I started out left-handed, and was forced to use my right-hand -- leaving me somewhat ambidextrous. And I would say that both sides of my brain are working overtime. Anyhow, how do you stand on the handed-ness spectrum? (And are you ASD? Reply in comments.)

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Sci_Fi_FanGirl , 9 months ago to ActuallyAutistic group

> I'm a highly masked autistic adult.

You will see me functioning.

You won't see my meltdown at home.
You won't see my overthinking.
You won't see my exhaustion.

> I'm a highly masked autistic adult in burnout.

You will see me struggling.

You won't see why I have lost skills.
You won't see why I isolate.
You won't see why I'm weirder than before.

Low support needs
doesn't mean
No support needs

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hosford42 , 9 months ago to ActuallyAutistic group

Ever read about a "discovery" and find yourself surprised that it wasn't common knowledge?

The stereotypical speech pattern for verbal autistic people is monotone, but there's actually another subgroup: those of us with "sing-songy" speech. I'm in this group. I was compared to a miniature car salesman as a child because of the exaggerated inflections in my voice. I heard the music of language as the primary signal and the words as secondary. I thought everyone heard the musical phrases intrinsic to spoken language, and the meanings they convey. But no, some researchers apparently just discovered its existence!

https://phys.org/news/2025-04-words-hidden-musical-grammar-natural.html

#ActuallyAutistic
@actuallyautistic

darrellpf , 11 months ago to ActuallyAutistic group

Echo echolalia...

Up until today I would have said "I don't do echolalia" on any online test. Years after my autism awakening... aha!

My partner and I echo phrases off the TV, deliberately misunderstanding them and turning it into a joke.

We say nonsense words ("wha?") to each other, chirping back and forth all day.

We do this constantly, but never in front of others. It bonds us tightly, like geese calling out to each other.

Unmasking happens naturally in a safe space.

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innervisioner , 1 year ago to ActuallyAutistic group

Thanks to ActuallyAutistic group folk yesterday on a Q of exec function. 🙏

I’m checking out the demand & preferred name for a new group for #AuDHD “women of a certain age”, I.e. menopausal or post-meno lasses.

How about @AuDHDcrones (at a.gup.pe) for a snappy descriptor? As we’re not maidens anymore.

Too insulting?

@AuDHDmeno? @AuDHDauldgal?

Suggestions welcome ✨

#actuallyautistic #actuallyaudhd #adhd

@GinevraCat
@AnAutieAtUni
@A_bee

pathfinder , 1 year ago to ActuallyAutistic group

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For all those who might be interested. I thought I might share some of the things I learnt whilst realising I was autistic. These may, or may not, apply to you, but I hope someone finds something helpful.

I started upon the path of realising I was autistic by taking one of the tests. But a single test is only indicative. Taking a number of the tests and repeating the results, becomes, of course, ever more indicative. But, in a sense, it is still not proof. Sooner, or later, you have to do the work and look into it properly. The best sources of information are your fellow autistic's and there are numerous excellent books and websites, YouTubers and places like this, where such information can be found.

But, one thing you must always bear in mind, is that there is no such thing as a one size fits all, autism. We are all different from each other, even more so than non-autistics (allistics) tend to be. Think of it like a pick and mix bar. All the various traits and the manifestations of those traits and we all come away from that bar with our own individual bag of goodies. So it's OK to not see yourself in how others describe themselves. It's OK not to experience the difficulties that others might, or even the way that they may see some things as strengths or positives, when to you, they are not. This is normal.

It's also important to bear in mind that we can often not see traits within ourselves, not at first anyway. Sometimes it's because we see them as normal. Perhaps, we've picked them up from parents, or siblings, without realising that they may have been just as much in the dark about being autistic as you were. Sometimes it's because we've become too adept at not seeing them, at masking our own awareness of them from ourselves. It can also be that we don't think we have them, because we're not affected by them. This can often be because, without realising it, we've either carefully arranged our lives not to be, or have gone to great lengths to create the necessary accommodations that enable us to deal with them and just think of those processes as a normal part of our lives now, without taking the step back and thinking about why they are.

The fact that we all can be so different from one another, is also why we sometimes struggle to see ourselves in the official criteria for autism as outlined in the diagnostic manuals. The thing to remember about these, is that they are almost entirely the product of allistics looking in, rather than the experiences of actual autistics. They can also seem too deficit based and you might struggle to see yourselves fitting them because of that. Mostly because as adults we've spent a long time learning how to cope with the problems and also how to avoid them. But, the thing to remember about this, is that an official diagnosis is far more to do with determining how badly you might be affected by being autistic, than it is about whether you are autistic. And, unfortunately, the less experienced an assessor is in dealing with adults, the more this is likely to be the case.

For this reason and many others, self-diagnosis is considered as acceptable as an official-diagnosis to the vast majority of autistics. And, I suppose, this is the final point I want to make. It's easy to fall into the trap of thinking that this is something that has to be dealt with by the medical community. That it's something that should be diagnosed by a doctor and this is the appropriate route to follow. That only professionals can help you and that they will be the source of any information and guidance you need. Because, after all, for so much else it would be the route and I'm not saying it's not. For many reasons, getting an official diagnosis is often the right path for someone to follow. What I'm saying is that after doing the work, after taking the time to learn and process it all and having come to the point of accepting and realising that you are autistic, that perhaps taking the next step of trying to get an official diagnosis, is no longer required, or needed.

#Autism
#ActuallyAutistic

eazy , 1 year ago to ActuallyAutistic group

Curious... Any others on the spectrum felt compelled to organize or inventory personal collections? Like, as a kid, I would count my books.
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niamhgarvey , 1 year ago to ActuallyAutistic group

Thank goodness I am travelling with a social freebie (my term for someone I don't have to mask my #Autism around) as the amount of #EV charging problems we have had today is seriously anxiety-inducing and there has been stimming and cursing and loud ARGHING. Car charging infrastructure is so so bad in Ireland.... Big queues and broken chargers and over-charging etc etc.
#RangeAnxiety
#Autistic

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murdoc , 1 year ago to ActuallyAutistic group

I'm reposting this because I messed up last time and forgot to use hashtags. So apologies if you've already seen this. Also, my new instance has a much higher character limit so I can post it here directly instead of making you use a link to somewhere else.

This is a super short children's story I wrote inspired by the challenges of being #autistic , and possibly other forms of #neurodivergence .

Once there was a little car named Sporty the Sportscar. He grew up on a farm where it was all dirt and rocks. Sporty wasn’t like all the other vehicles at the farm. They were all trucks, tractors, jeeps, and ATVs. They had no problem getting around the farm, whereas Sporty had a very hard time. No matter how hard he tried he could only go very slowly over the rough terrain, sometimes hurting himself, sometimes getting stuck and not moving at all. His little wheels would spin and spin, but seldom was he able to get very far.
But Sporty didn’t know why he had these troubles. All the others at the farm would see his slow, clumsy movements and make fun of him for it.
“Come on!” they’d say. “Put some horsepower into it!”
“Kid must not have much horsepower after all.”
“A vehicle without horsepower can’t go very far in life.”
And this would make Sporty very sad and frustrated, wondering what was wrong with him. Maybe the others were right, maybe he didn’t have much horsepower. Maybe he was defective.
One day he heard of a place called The City, where they used these things called roads. Long, flat, smooth surfaces that made driving so much easier than on rough dirt. The other vehicles from the farm would travel out to the city and zip along the roads for fun, before returning to the farm later for their work. To Sporty it sounded like something he’d like to try. Maybe his defective body and wheels wouldn’t have such a hard time there.
But The City was far away, and Sporty couldn’t get there. He tried a few times, but after a long and painful journey, he’d get stuck, not even very far from the farm, and he had to wait for someone to tow him back home.
“I wish I could get to The City.” Sporty thought to himself sadly, but without any way to get there, he was stuck being a disappointment to everyone.
Then one day a truck named Big Rig visited the farm. Big Rig had a trailer that carried other cars. He noticed Sporty and asked him if he needed a ride. Sporty was a little shy about accepting help from Big Rig though. Normally Big Rig only carried cars that were broken and couldn’t move on their own. He was afraid that it would make the other vehicles look down at him even more than they already did.
“Come on, son! It’ll be fun.” Big Rig encouraged him. So Sporty accepted, and slowly drove up the ramp onto Big Rig’s trailer. He still couldn’t help feeling like a failure though, like he was worthless as a vehicle. Once on board, Big Rig said “All right then, let’s go!”, and the two went into The City.
Once in The City, Sporty tried driving on a road. He was nervous at first, it was so different. But once he got going, he went fast! Faster than all the trucks, tractors, and ATVs could ever go. Sporty was so happy zooming around The City, and everyone was impressed. It turns out that Sporty had plenty of horsepower after all! Sporty even met other sports cars like him and they’d race together all around The City. And Sporty was happy, he had finally found his place.

#actuallyautistic ActuallyAutistic group #neurodivergent #autism

pathfinder , 1 year ago to ActuallyAutistic group

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Like many autistics, I struggle with change suddenly being thrust upon me. It can and will upset me and put me on the back foot. Potentially ruining that day and, indeed, quite a few to come, as I struggle to get back into the structure of my days and a sense of balance, emotionally and mentally. This is because that sort of change, in a very real way, is imposed in that moment. It's beyond my control and the ramifications of it, even if it is only a very small change, can dash like dominoes all my carefully prepared plans and options and whatever preparation I may have already made.

Change, in and of itself, though, I don't have a problem with. And that's because I expect it. For me, the potential for change is inevitable. And this is because I live entirely in the now. The past is the memory and understanding of what went on that I have now. Which is subject to change as my understanding and perception of it changes. The future is merely the potential of what may happen and is not carved in stone. I am aware that there are events and situations that I have to prepare for, presents to be bought, for example, preparations to be made. But the future is only ever a potential and never a certainty.

This expectation of uncertainty is also why I think I can be better at dealing with change than many others. I don't cling to what I think the future should, or even will, be. If I can sense that the potential for changes are coming, then I will begin to prepare for them, just as I prepare for them not happening. Sometimes, of course, changes can be so huge, like suddenly going into lockdown, that it can take me some time to get any traction on that preparation and get my head around what needs to be done. But, it doesn't mean that I can't get my head around the fact that things have changed and that I have to deal with it.

So, for me, the upset of sudden change has never been about change as such. It has always been about the jarring impact of its sudden introduction. Change I don't have a problem with, as long as I have time to prepare and an ability, as much as possible, to control how it affects me.

#Autism
#ActuallyAutistic

aetataureate , 1 year ago to random

last boost, the abled belief that being disabled or chronically ill is a binary is very clear to me. it's why they think many people aren't "disabled enough" in a public way, accuse people of malingering, etc.

supporting disabled people's rights and quality of life and safety helps support our entire society. and abled people experience setbacks too. the same efforts and attention help ensure that someone with an injury or illness receives the devices or rehab they need. we're in this together.

herhandsmyhands , 1 year ago to bookstodon group

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Every time an author states that borrowing from a library "steals" sales from them, I want to scream.

Publishers have indoctrinated authors against libraries, to authors' own detriment. Libraries buy your book, and if it gets popular, they buy more copies--but more, they introduce readers to your work, and those readers will spread the word, even if they don't buy your books themselves.

#Libraries are unpaid marketing. Be thankful.

#ReadingRant