• ZombiFrancis@sh.itjust.works
    5·
    14 hours ago

    We both work from home. We have neither excuses nor anyone to blame.

    We’re just the third panel twice in a standoff with the dishes.

    • DigitalAudio@sopuli.xyz
      2·
      6 hours ago

      We just have the rule that whoever cooks doesn’t wash. I hate cooking because I hate getting my hands sticky, my wife hates washing the dishes because she always forgets the corners and we end up rewashing anyway.

      It’s perfect harmony. Whenever she doesn’t want to cook, I cook, and she then procrastinates washing as long as she wants because it is her responsibility and we both know it.

      We basically never fight, but cooking and washing has never been a point of tension in this household lol.

    • ohshit604@sh.itjust.worksEnglish
      102·
      17 hours ago

      Be @FuyuhikoDate@feddit.org.

      Finds a comic strip that i don’t like.

      This must be before my time, I must make my opinion known to all.

      Proceeds to publicly talk down on the comic for being ”old and out of touch”.

      Realizes Arc Raiders released in 2025.

      Shit.

        • FuyuhikoDate@feddit.org
          32·
          12 hours ago

          Hmm… Would being married change the narrative? And if yes, is it mandatory that its a hetero marriage or could it be a same sex marriage? ;)

          • YiddishMcSquidish@lemmy.todayEnglish
            2·
            9 hours ago

            My mom is in a non hetero marriage very much like this. But if you were married, you would know that mutual respect is key to making it last and be worth it.

      • FuyuhikoDate@feddit.org
        11·
        12 hours ago

        You could replace the game with every other title and I still would think the same about it ;)

        Yeah i didnt recognized the game in the picture. But the idea behind this 3 Panel Comic would not change if its resident evil requiem or Monty on the run ;)

    • Psythik@lemmy.world
      11·
      9 hours ago

      Not really. As a millennial this is a problem I have (and am not proud of). Hell, it’s a problem for a person from any generation with Executive Disfunction. The only Boomerish behavior I see in this thread is from you, for assuming that this is a single-generational issue.

      • FuyuhikoDate@feddit.org
        1·
        9 hours ago

        Hmm… Nah I dont see a “single generation” issue there and now I kinda assume to understand what your problem is, so thanks for explaining.

        I dont get it why you assume think “saying something is boomer” equals “single generation issue”. I mean yeah even milleanials and gen z are suffering from patriachic issues. And its not like that they try to hide it…

        But interestingly enough that you defend a comic which tries to point a multilayer problem down to a single issue. Executive Dysfunction is a hell of a problem and I am deeply sorry to hear that.

        But those comics boil the problem more down to a “haha guy is always on the computer instead of doing dishes…”

  • 🍉 Albert 🍉@lemmy.world
    1102·
    2 days ago

    I’m the one who did the dishes, cleaning, groceries, kids, after I cleaned she would make a mess then yell at me for being a slob and not keeping the house clean, also I worked full-time. When the dishwasher broke she blamed me because I’m the only one who loaded/unloaded it. when I fixed it with proof it wasn’t my fault, it was still my fault.

    abusive relationships really mess with your senses of reality.

    • Stegget@lemmy.world
      3·
      15 hours ago

      Dude are you me? Similar situation, my ex was/is a raging narcissist who would absolutely trash the house. Kitchen was a disaster because she was an aspiring cake decorator who never bothered to clean up after herself and would fill entire 8 foot folding tables with her crap for weeks on end. Never lifted a finger with the rest of the house, actively trashed everything and her strategy was to wait for me to reach a breaking point where I had to rage clean for my own sanity, then she’d do it all over again. She was and is a shit parent and a deadbeat. There’s sooo much more and it all ended poorly… For her, at least. I’m out of that situation now, but it took me a long time to admit I was in an abusive relationship.

      • 🍉 Albert 🍉@lemmy.world
        4·
        15 hours ago

        However little resources are for women escaping abusive relationship, there are even less for men. there should be more resources. When I called the police when I was being hit, all they told me is that if I were to touch her they would take me away. but me getting mauled is OK for them.

        • Stegget@lemmy.world
          2·
          6 hours ago

          My saving grace was that the last time she hit me, it was on camera. Video evidence goes a long way toward forcing the hand of the police.

  • underscores@lemmy.zipEnglish
    281·
    2 days ago

    I think one of the issues couples have with cleaning is that everyone has different schedules and approaches

    I never clean during weekdays, sorry but work fucks me up and when I come home I want all relaxation

    When the weekend starts after my Saturday morning I’ll go on a quick cleaning binge, and then Sunday night I do another clean binge and repeat

    • telllos@lemmy.world
      28·
      2 days ago

      I think, there are some things that can’t “wait”, dishes, always after meal. I never want to arrive in my kitchen and it’s full of dirty dishes.

    • tias@discuss.tchncs.de
      121·
      2 days ago

      The issue is people assume their way is the only right way and when someone does it differently they interpret it as lazy or malicious, rather than responding with humility and trying to find out how their partner thinks.

    • Christian@lemmy.mlEnglish
      4·
      1 day ago

      I always found it overwhelming to get started on big messes, so cleaning everything up immediately would get around my executive dysfunction. When I got in a relationship with someone whose approach was to be a human hurricane and then deep clean every once in a while it was a culture shock and it took years of me being a bad partner to become more responsible. I didn’t really understand the executive dysfunction so I self-loathed over it.

    • lightnsfw@reddthat.com
      2·
      1 day ago

      Same. If it’s something I can just rinse or wipe down I’ll do it now but if it’s going to require elbow grease it will keep til Saturday (or soak til tomorrow when it will be rinse and wipeable). Saturdays are for cleaning. Every few weeks I take a Monday so I can deep clean without regret.

    • aln@lemmy.world
      42·
      1 day ago

      Spend two hours of your precious weekend cleaning or 15 minutes once a day so it stays clean throughout the week.

      Hmmm decisions decisions.

      • lightnsfw@reddthat.com
        2·
        1 day ago

        15 minutes on a weeknight is like 1/8th of the time I have to myself. Two hours of the weekend is a much smaller chunk

  • WanderingThoughts@europe.pub
    15·
    1 day ago

    My wife goes into complete reading trance when she gets her hands on a new novel. Nothing will get done until that book is finished. Any response will be delayed until the next chapter.

      • TryingSomethingNew@sopuli.xyz
        191·
        2 days ago

        The easy fix TL;DW (though you should, Alex is great) is to, right before starting the dishwasher, run the hot water until the tap is as hot as it gets. Drastically improved outcomes.

        • mushroommunk@lemmy.today
          15·
          2 days ago

          I took away from his video it’s to put detergent in both spots because there’s two rinses. The running to get hot is just cherry on top to help more

        • LurkingLuddite@piefed.socialEnglish
          6·
          1 day ago

          Also clean the filter in the bottom. Do not forget proper maintenance or you’ll just be cursing him for not listening to advice he does give.

        • DaGeek247@fedia.io
          18·
          2 days ago

          Jesus fuck how have you not burned out your motor yet. I did that once and ruined my dishwasher instantly.

          • mushroommunk@lemmy.today
            15·
            2 days ago

            They probably mean the liquid made for dishwashers, not like regular Dawn dish detergent. My regular local grocery store carries it right next to the box of dishwasher powder

          • Eheran@lemmy.world
            4·
            2 days ago

            Was that defect caused by that or just happened at that moment? I can not see how it should cause damage if you use any normal detergent.

            • DaGeek247@fedia.io
              1·
              2 days ago

              Liquid dish soap kills dishwashers. The bubbles mean the motor and/or pump fills with bubbles instead of water and often causes them to burn out.

              • Eheran@lemmy.world
                3·
                1 day ago

                That makes sense, you do not want bubbles and it surely will overflow. But why should they burn out because of that? There is lower resistance etc. and cooling is still mostly working. I really see no way how it damages the machine. I repaired a bunch before, so this is not coming from nowhere. So I googled and found this: https://robertbair.com/blog/i-accidentally-put-dish-soap-dishwasher-now-what And that makes total sense. It only damages if the soap “crust” builds up too much. That is not a quick thing to happen. Otherwise it is all about the mess or makes.

                • Ibuthyr@lemmy.wtf
                  3·
                  15 hours ago

                  Pumps really don’t like running dry. But this doesn’t happen with dishwasher soap, as it doesn’t foam.

                • DaGeek247@fedia.io
                  3·
                  1 day ago

                  Most dishwasher pumps rely on the water flow generated while running to remain cool under normal use. When I say that they burn out, I mean that the motor literally burns its wires bad enough that the electric signal no longer carries properly.

                  All it takes for this to happen is for the motor to run for a length of time without anything going through it, which bubbles can and do prevent happening. You will find this in nearly every single pump that pushes water: the design requires water running through it in order to maintain proper temperatures.

                  Dishwashers often have a single pump for water flow, so if the washer fills with bubbles and the water gets low enough, the one thing that cools the dishwasher motor can easily stop running for a couple hours, despite technically being surrounded by water.

    • PlantJam@lemmy.world
      122·
      2 days ago

      Only sometimes. Just put everything in as is and hand wash what doesn’t come out clean. This applies more to newer washers rather than the old ones that just redistribute the filth.

      • Dozzi92@lemmy.world
        3·
        1 day ago

        I remove solids, especially vegetable matter, cell walls and all that. But mainly a fork over the garbage, and on some occasions a light rinse.

        And I’ve seen every TC video there is. Even made a patron account just to sub to him. But I could never get the desired result from dishwasher dust, and so I’m a pod man, and I’m happy with what I see, and that’s that.

  • Harvey656@lemmy.world
    9·
    1 day ago

    Uh, I do the dishes and the gaming and the laundry and vacuum and…

    But she’s hot and makes more money, so its all good.

  • RBWells@lemmy.world
    13·
    2 days ago

    Ack no, not in my house. I cook, husband does the dishes usually. I clean the dishwasher filter, maintain the machine and tell him not to clean the dishes before they go in. He doesn’t usually wash my cast iron because he was messing it up (which is not easy to do but he managed it) but all the regular dishes and most of the pots & pans are his world because he wants me to cook.

    • emb@lemmy.world
      13·
      2 days ago

      There’s an old Mitch Hedberg joke that goes something like “This shirt is dry clean only, which means… it’s dirty”

      I think the same applies exactly for dishes that aren’t dishwasher safe. I have a dishwasher but my sink still has a pile of dishes waiting.