sarah2653

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sarah2653 OP ,

no bans so far?

sarah2653 OP ,

can't she fill the forms and take the package to a post office alone?

sarah2653 OP ,

you mean she wants you to take the package back to a post office... or does she want you to deal with the seller?

sarah2653 OP ,

Also if they hurt to wear, don’t bother. These heels were not made for you.

thanks, I needed to read that

sarah2653 OP ,

nice, a cobbler :D

shoe size is largely a suggestion.

does this mean the same nominal size can mean differences larger than half an inch in length? 0.25 in?

In this case, the seller provides both the sizing and the shoe's length, explicitly stating to trust the length more than the sizing, that's why I'm giving it a shot.

It is possible to stretch shoes

Now I'm curious. How would you stretch this stiletto sandal? see below

https://lemmy.ml/pictrs/image/378e2ee3-f623-470d-a4fb-164e7014e7f4.jpeg

sarah2653 OP ,

correct, half a size smaller. Title corrected.

I want them to be as versatile as possible, so both events only and all day long. Would the smaller size be a problem?

I can buy em, test em for 4 weeks and return if not happy with them

sarah2653 OP ,

but if its the wrong size it going to stay the wrong size no matter what you do.

I was afraid of that.

Is the world actually worse than it was 25 years ago, or does it just feel that way because I'm now more aware of how dysfunctional and cruel everything seems?

I remember my childhood mostly as a happy, oblivious one, affordable food, the usual disagreements between liberals and republicans, but nothing unhinged (say taxes, migrants or abortion). At least it looks reasonable today. ...

sarah2653 OP ,

does that work without a diagnose?

sarah2653 OP ,

Ren, don't waste your time with null, he's completely reactive at this point, unable to see how he contradicts himself (first writing to hire only candidates who claim to be excited to be part of your team because I want to learn all I can from you, immediately after writing Everyone lies in interviews).

projecting

sarah2653 OP ,

I won’t apologise for having a growth mindset.

this is perfect! I'm using it

sarah2653 OP ,

this is even better than I won’t apologise for having a growth mindset.

good advice, also using it

sarah2653 OP ,

as much as I'd love to use this line, this would put a huge mark on my back, at least where I work at.

surprising how thin skinned some people are.

updating my cv as of now...

how did you and your partner change after having a baby?

I've heard several stories about couples that suddenly stop having sex, start snapping at each other for stupid bs, your girlfriend who was so sweet and supporting becomes her mother, a raging, yelling psychopath, looking for excuses to be passive aggressive, inviting her friends back home when all you want to do is rest after ...

how do I avoid becoming conformist, lazy and completely incapable of learning something new?

In the last 4 weeks I've worked with several people over 60 and I don't like what I saw: slow giving report or describing a problem, fixation on trivialities about a client's appearance or something funny he did instead of getting directly to the point and doing our jobs, incapable of coping with new forms of communication, ...

sarah2653 OP ,

If you just say “hello” back then they are usually satisfied.

sadly, that's not the case where I am. They always want more.

sarah2653 OP ,

I don’t have any answers, but you do have my sympathy.

thank you

can only say it pays to learn how to force a smile, even if it feels insincere.

I'm a terrible actor and I hate phony people.

sarah2653 OP ,

I will time it. Thanks

sarah2653 OP ,

People are assholes; Ignore 90% of what they say, if possible. Just be yourself. It’s the best person you could possibly be.

I'm surprised to see that your post has been upvoted. Usually the shy, quiet ones are mistaken for arrogant jerks and get bullied and downvoted by the extroverts.

I'm actually conflicted because on one hand I want to be me, my freedom above everything else, I choose my friends and the people I open up to and otoh I wonder if I should play theatrics for short bursts of time (like 2 minutes) to placate some coworker's fragile egos.

My teenager self with my parents were like yours: open up, talk more, you are not normal (yup, my father told me that). They bullied me and I tried that for a week, extremely tiring and ridiculous to talk to them about stupid sh*t I don't care about just to please the needy extroverts, but obviously I would go back to my normal self, because they are so tiring. My parents didn't respect me, same as these needy coworkers now.

It doesn't make any sense trying to change a person's personality. So sad that extroverts feel we do this because we hate them.

I still don't know what the ideal solution is, or if there's an ideal solution.

thanks for your post and good luck to you.

is this how extroverts function?

I'm the quiet, introverted one and I may be on the spectrum. I like to do my job and go home. I hate drama and drama queens and ignore people when they start gossiping. Many extroverts find that offensive and talk behind my back like teenagers do. This stupid drama is the only reason why I quit my job after finding a new one. ...

sarah2653 OP ,

it also guarantees that you’ll fail more often than not if you don’t get professionally trained help

would you DM me to explain what kind of help you got and how it helped?

If you're talking about masking, isn't it hard? like constantly being on edge pretending to be something you're not, faking being what extroverted neurotypicals want you to be.

At the workplace it would mean working 200%: doing my job and then constantly placating them. Who does that?