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renata_fernandes

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Autista tardia à esquerda. Gateira. Fibromiálgica. Tradutora. Bi/pan.

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Late-identified autistic | Translator | She | Leftist | Human to cats | Movie and TV show nerd

Toots in EN and PTBR.

Toots are automatically deleted from time to time.

Avatar: I'm wearing round, silver-rimmed glasses and a pink blouse. Smiling at camera.

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@darrellpf@mas.to avatar darrellpf , to ActuallyAutistic group

In "The Residence" on Netflix, autism is treated as the norm rather than a minority.

At one point an allistic cop decides to show off his "autistic problem solving skills" and has a silly explanation rant with no fact checking.

The autistic detective gives him a bemused "pat pat" and continues on her way.

When the detective identifies an autistic person, she listens intently to the info dump, knowing the details and associations are correct

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@darrellpf OMG! Seriously? I HAVE TO watch it right now

Do you have a favorite character so far?

It's a limited series, right?
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@darrellpf it honestly sounds amazing! I've never seen anything like that! And if you have similar recs to this show, please do share them with us. Books, movies, whatever

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@filmfreak75@mastodon.social avatar filmfreak75 , to ActuallyAutistic group

actuallyautistic@a.gup.pe icon ActuallyAutistic group question for the group…

…i am coming up on the one year anniversary of my formal diagnosis…

…does anyone celebrate it or is it more a “now i know, i'm good" kind of thing

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@filmfreak75

I've never considered celebrating it, but I don't think I'll ever forget the exact date of my formal diagnosis because it changed my life forever

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@theautisticcoach@neurodifferent.me avatar theautisticcoach , to ActuallyAutistic group

good morning autistic comrades

how are you entering the week?

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@theautisticcoach actuallyautistic@a.gup.pe icon ActuallyAutistic group feeling a little defeated by the heat (I'm in South America), but trying to making a list of priorities in my career to help me go forward

@renata_fernandes@autistics.life avatar renata_fernandes , to ActuallyAutistic group

boy, my Inoreader is full of To-be-read articles, and I don't even know where to start

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@renata_fernandes@autistics.life avatar renata_fernandes , to ActuallyAutistic group

Yesterday I got really bad news, and I'm still trying to wrap my head around it. I instantly called my mom saying I was about to have a meltdown and told her what happened. She's very pragmatic, so almost instantly presented a potential solution to my problem. It's not an easy solution, it will take some time, potentially the whole year until all is fixed and pretty again, but it'll be worth it in the end. I think. And I'm writing this toot to highlight the importance of reaching out and of having good people by your side. I know many don't have such privilege, and if you're one of those people, even though my brain is still foggy from yesterday, I'm here for you. You can reach out, and I'll help you the best way I know how. Virtual hugs, words of encouragement, reading your toots, whatever it is you need.

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@catswhocode
yeah, and it's totally new territory to me, so I'd be drowning without help. Did you "solve" your bad news from last year?

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@JohannaMakesGames

yeah, it'll work itself out, eventually

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@renata_fernandes@autistics.life avatar renata_fernandes , to ActuallyAutistic group

I bought a blood pressure monitor because I want to check if my blood pressure is as low as it seems in this heat. I don't know, I guess I enjoy suffering. I hate this weather. I can't think. And I'm pissed off about other things too, so having low blood pressure is not helping right now

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@renata_fernandes@autistics.life avatar renata_fernandes , to ActuallyAutistic group

Outlander books have so many pages I'll probably only read 5 books this year, which is perfectly fine. I'm done putting extra pressure on myself. I don't want to have another burnout

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@renata_fernandes@autistics.life avatar renata_fernandes , to ActuallyAutistic group

i'm so happy with my brand new pair of Loops. The Quiet mode could be better or maybe I just should move to a quieter neighborhood when I get the chance 💔 🤣

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@catswhocode@mastodon.art avatar catswhocode , to actuallyadhd group

actuallyautistic@a.gup.pe icon ActuallyAutistic group I had joked about having a lot of tabs open in my browser a week or two ago - do you all do that?

I tend to close them when I'm done with them, but instead I have thousands of bookmarks, categorized into folders, and txt files with links and descriptions, kind of like the meme was joking about.

There doesn't seem to be any perfect system to remember all the stuff I want to get back to. The life of AuDHD :abunhdsadpat: actuallyadhd@a.gup.pe icon actuallyadhd group

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@catswhocode

I'm a translator, and I'm potentially an ADHDer, so yeah, it's a lifestyle. Lots of research about celebrities and the actual work I'm trying to do 😅

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@lorimeyers@bolha.one avatar lorimeyers , to ActuallyAutistic group Portuguese

eu tava aqui pensando num negócio. eu fiquei tentada a comprar ingresso pro show do SOAD, mas aí eu me peguei pensando q eu tinha q descobrir se o lugar tem "espaço autista" e se existem acomodações pra q eu consiga ir (por causa das coisas do autismo mesmo).

aí eu disse pra mim mesma "mas mesmo se não tiver talvez se eu me esforçar bastante e aguentar bastante desconforto eu consiga ir".

aí meu cérebro me respondeu "um cadeirante pode tentar ir se arrastando na força do ódio e se machucando pra chegar num lugar sem acessibilidade".

aí eu disse "ah. verdade."

fica aí a reflexão.

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renata_fernandes ,
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@lorimeyers exatamente. Muitas coisas que a gente precisa levar em consideração ao pensar nesses lugares e eventos (show etc.)

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@renata_fernandes@autistics.life avatar renata_fernandes , to bookstodon group

I'm really enjoying Slow Horses (book 1 in Mick Herron's Slow Horses series). Mick has a surprising storytelling. And I intend to going back to season 2 of the Slow Horses show soon!

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@renata_fernandes@autistics.life avatar renata_fernandes , to ActuallyAutistic group

Loop Switch 2 is on sale, at least for my area. I just bought an Emerald pair. I intend to use it for all situations that require leaving the house. The 3 modes sound amazing but I will probably be using only 2 of them, not Quiet. I have been wearing a pair of rubber ones but one of them doesn't fit (none of the three earpieces!). I sleep on my side, so it works for sleeping but no for other activities. actuallyautistic@a.gup.pe icon ActuallyAutistic group

@renata_fernandes@autistics.life avatar renata_fernandes , to ActuallyAutistic group

actuallyautistic@a.gup.pe icon ActuallyAutistic group is it autistic to say "and then" a lot? As in "And then they did this and that"

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@unabogie now it all makes sense

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@lorimeyers kkkkkkk bom saber! Além do "e aí", ontem eu percebi que falo muito "o que que acontece" também

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@llPK I haven't watched the whole show (it's great!) but you can tell me what happens. It's not a spoiler anymore 😆

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@niamhgarvey@mastodon.ie avatar niamhgarvey , to ActuallyAutistic group

I need more today. Preferably lovely shiny ones. In fact, shiny table spoons. No no, giant serving spoons.

Not even sure I've got a teaspoon in me today.

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@renata_fernandes@autistics.life avatar renata_fernandes , to ActuallyAutistic group

I can’t say I have a well-thought-out idea of achieving a work-life balance. I’ve only just found out I’m autistic, so I’m probably light years from that. There are tons of online articles on the subject, so I’ll not bore you with things you may have already read about. Also, I sometimes write how-to articles, but they’re not really my cup of tea. I’d rather build a more organic, work-in-progress piece of writing.

Keep reading:


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#08 Work-life Balance The Autistic Work-in-progress Way TheRefreshButton.substack.com
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@spika@neurodifferent.me avatar spika , to ActuallyAutistic group

Yep. I was the autistic lady having a screaming meltdown in the grocery store because they made a change in the checkout area that altered the flow of exiting the store because a lady working there yelled at me for doing it wrong...

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@renata_fernandes@autistics.life avatar renata_fernandes , to ActuallyAutistic group

How do you deal with manipulative, toxic people if they are very close to someone you love? Do you stop telling intimate things to the person you love?



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I may have found the most suitable time for exercising: A couple of hours after I start working. I'm really happy I finally settled on a time. I was always struggling to wake up early and exercise. It didn't work. It also didn't work to try to do it after work. But now I found the middle ground.

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@renata_fernandes@autistics.life avatar renata_fernandes , to ActuallyAutistic group

Inspiring art by a Brazilian artist, Samara. She's 16.

https://ayom.media/@ana/113317943771077804

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@renata_fernandes@autistics.life avatar renata_fernandes , to ActuallyAutistic group

How can I make autistic friends IRL?

PS. I'm not on Facebook.

PS 2. I've tried MeetUp but there's nothing there in my area.

Boosts are appreciated.

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@alisynthesis

Maybe. I'll give it a try

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@benjamincox

Yeah, it makes sense. But do you like talking to them? Do you share any interests?

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renata_fernandes OP ,
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@Huubje you made a very good point with the special interests. Thank you so much 😊. That's really helpful

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@Susan60

😢 how did you meet them?

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@cybervegan that's interesting. I've never been to the local library but I want to. I don't know if I'm feeling too brave atm to start a group because I know how overwhelming it can be to be in charge of them. It maybe too much responsibility for me atm

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@aka_quant_noir

I like coffee shops, so this is really helpful. Thank you! I'm taking notes

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@Susan60

wow! 5 hours! You really hit it off. Good!

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@betaburns thanks, Emma! That's a great insight

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@betaburns

you're right! Thank you 😀

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actuallyautistic@a.gup.pe icon ActuallyAutistic group you guys have helped me so much! Thank you :RedHearts: I've written it all down and I'm going to take action

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@Susan60 hahaha I'm going through that info dumping phase right now. Annoying but lovely, right?🤣

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@Susan60 I like when people info dump too. It's interesting.

I had a student once who loved info dump on quantum physics. He was only 14!

Good night!

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@Kellyshenanigans great tips! Thank you

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@Kellyshenanigans

you mentioned something I've wanted to do with potential friends but I failed. It's very difficult to be vulnerable and say what you expect. But such is life, right? To achieve something, you have to step out in the sunlight.

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