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This article was co-authored by Lisa Shield. Lisa Shield is a love and relationship expert based in Los Angeles. She has a Master's degree in Spiritual Psychology and is a certified life and relationship coach with over 17 years of experience. Lisa has been featured in The Huffington Post, Buzzfeed, LA Times, and Cosmopolitan.
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Sexual tension is that potent chemistry between you and someone else that gives you butterflies and makes you nervous and excited all at once. Whether you’re flirting with someone you just met or you’re trying to turn a friendship into something more, creating this chemistry is a crucial step. With flirtatious touches, witty lines, and plenty of confidence, you can ratchet up the sexual tension and get both of you excited for whatever comes next.
Steps
Creating Chemistry and Tension In-Person
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Touch them in a casual, almost accidental way. When you first start talking to someone you’re interested in, start to establish touch early on by simply brushing up against them, or touching the back of their hand or shoulder.[1] You can make it look like an accident at first, then get more purposeful when you start to get more comfortable with each other.[2]- If the person returns your interest, either by continuing the conversation or even touching you in return, get more purposeful. Try touching the small of their back or grabbing their arm or hand gently to escalate the tension.
