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just a dude doing dude things.

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Cake day: August 24th, 2023

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  • We live in a smallish southern town in TN. I assume she didn’t really feel safe coming out, or maybe religious upbringing. Neither of us were ever religious but we were both raised in the southern evangelical church, like everyone here. I assume now she was at least bi-sexual, because yeah, how do you fake that? And it was never a “dead bedroom” situation. Maybe is was hormonal changes that triggered something. Who knows? I stopped trying to figure it out. She seems happy and after the dust settled, I’m happy too. Except that dating at my age is a nightmare. Some of our mutual friends have said it was like someone flipped a switch in her brain. So it wasn’t just me that was surprised. I guess you never really know someone.



  • I went through the same thing like 12 years ago. Married 15 years, wife comes out of the closet suddenly (I should mention, I caught her making out with a gal at a party, so she didn’t have a choice really). It was hard to wrap my head around for a long time because, as far as I could tell, there was nothing leading up to it. We had a great sex life, mostly great marriage, kids, mortgage, the works. We argued like most couples do over money and things like that but it was never anything we couldn’t solve. I found out that this is a lot more common than people think. I ended up in therapy because, like others said, it’s like someone dying. The person you knew isn’t really there anymore. At least, that’s how it feels. My ex and I are friends now, and I’m friends with her wife as well but that took a lot of years. Talking to a counselor really helped me come up with, and stick to a plan. We got married right out of high school so really, we didn’t even know who we were or what we wanted. No one should get married before age 30. Struggling to function is your right, so don’t beat yourself up. I didn’t eat for 4 days and lived mostly on coffee and cigars (she hated my occasional cigar, so when she cheated I went out and bought a box of them. petty but whatever).