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Cake day: June 14th, 2023

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  • This is what my wife and I did. I think it is a good thing to do, but if you look at my comment history just one comment down from this, you’ll see good reason for what I’m about to say:

    Not everyone should do this. It is extremely challenging, and its not something I think most people can take on successfully. Unfortunately, the fact that a kid is in a situation to be adopted means they have been severely impacted by trauma, which means that they will be considerably harder to parent than a kid you have biologically.

    It is not for the faint of heart. Hell, its not even for those of a strong constitution. I have been nearly broken many times, and I’ve only been parenting my kids for 5 years. I have wanted to quit countless times.


  • My daughter has “reactive attachment disorder” and she can behave like this. She is adopted from a rough first few years of life and being in the foster system for a while before we took her and her older brother in.

    Like you said below, as she gets older she is getting better at controlling impulses, but not 100% and so when she does get upset she is stronger and more dangerous. 2024-2025 school year was super rough for us. She went to the ER many times, as it was the only support we could utilize for the kind of violence she was exhibiting, and eventually we were able to get her into a child psych unit for a few weeks and then into residential treatment. It was tough; we had to push back on very judgemental hospital staff, drive am hour one-way for weeks to visit her in residential, call the governor’s ombudsmen, and just generally do a ton of work to get her the help she needed.

    At one point, the psych unit’s family coordinator, who’s job was basically to convince us to bring her back home after a week of them basically only sedating her asked if we were ready to bring her back home. And when we told her that we weren’t because we expected her to rapidly move back to violent behaviors, she insisted we were going to have to, so I asked “and what if we don’t?” She threatened to call DHS. So I leaned into the camera and said “great, let’s do that then”. I believe this to be the only reason we got a successful referral to residential treatment.

    All of this was necessary treatment for my daughter. She is doing much better now. She has an IEP, which has placed her in an “emotional support classroom” and is on some good meds that are definitely helping. That said, she is still exhibiting violent behaviors from time to time. The trend is moving in the right direction, but she still has rough days.

    So anyway, I encourage you to seek help with this. It can be VERY HARD. You may be forced to make tough decisions and push back against people who are very judgemental and even making scary threats about you being an abusive or neglectful parent. They do not know your child. They do not know you. They do not know your home life. You must do what is right to being peace and safety to your home, even with these challenges. Good luck. Please feel free to reach out with questions or a non-judgemental ear to bounce off of.











  • I think rebels should start thinking more organizationally. Not everyone needs to be willing to die or kill to create a strong resistance. Sabotage can come in many forms, like stealing or destroying critical supplies; creating confusion or slowing down the enemy can be huge tactical advantages. I think if people really want to civil war this shit, then “get guns” isn’t helpful. Instead we should be suggesting things like “wear masks an obfuscate your identifiable characteristics and move road blocks into the roads leading to/from ICE facilities” and “dismantle or create a blockage for their buildings plumbing or water supplies”.



  • Shits fucked, and you’re right to press us (Americans) on taking action. but that 2/5 figure is not a very true look at our demographics. 1. There’s a huge contingent of non-voting americans; Some because they’re negligent, but plenty of others are children, disenfranchised through bullshit voting laws, non-citizens who contribute greatly but nevertheless can’t vote, or prisoners who have done their time but aren’t allowed to vote anymore. 2. Identifying parties from polls has always been suspect. 80% of people still willing to identify as republican in a poll support trump, but surely that self-selection bias is massively skewing those results. Would those farmers in the leopards ate my face community still say they’re republican in a poll? probably most, but not all who actually did vote republican.



  • it’s probably a little bit of both. idk, i’m not involved and disagree with his politics. but he’s a good target for what you’d need to do to change minds because reasonable explanations can get through, but he’s been poisoned by whatever cultural influences reagan imposed on his stupid little kid mind; believes in trickle down myth and such.