This is it. It’s really easy for cis people to talk about trans issues like they are nothing because they don’t experience them. I should know. I used to be like that before I knew I was a trans girl, and then I eventually came to realize why it hurt so much when my egg broke and I came to be in that position.

Thanks, it wasn’t easy, but I did it eventually 🏳️‍⚧️

Wow you totally seem like a credible and sensible person to make such an assessment, totally not someone with a history of transphobic arguments, nope, not at all, totally not someone who would get themselves banned making such an argument and deserve it 100%.

If it wasn’t clear I was being sarcastic. You clearly parroted right-wing transphobic talking points which means you believe or agree with them to a certain extent. You are not a safe person for trans people. Saying “I’m not transphobic I support LGBTQ, but…” is the equivalent of saying “I’m not racist, I have black friends”. I know your kind very well. I used to be one.

It’s sad. I’m really going to miss this place. I migrated to lemmy.blahaj.zone. I hope I’ll continue to have great experiences there.

I chose lemmy.blahaj.zone since most of the communities I participate in are there and they have been nothing but kind to me. I highly recommend it for other queer people who want to have a peaceful community free of transphobia.

lemmy.blahaj.zone is good, I just moved there. I’ve participated in their communities and they’ve been nothing but nice to me.

You and me both sister.

I know. I wish Breast Growth didn’t take so long. It’s only been one month since I started HRT but it feels like forever 😭

I’ll begrudgingly put the dress on but I’m not tucking my girldick. I never tuck and I don’t ever want to.

(I’d really rather not do either, I’m a tomboy and I prefer to dress in masc clothing, but I’m more open to wearing fem clothes than I am to tucking.)

I’m doing pretty good. I found a new therapist and I’ve been seeing her, though I’m not 100% sure yet if I trust her. She is trans too though so that’s a good sign I guess. Also I’ve been feeling a lot more calm lately, I’m not sure if it’s because of HRT or things going well but it’s nice.

It’s not gay if they are a woman (many trans women have dicks) and you are a man. It is by definition straight.

However if a trans woman and a cis woman decided to do it together it would be gay (I should know, I’m a trans lesbian).

(b) implied they take it up the ass.

FYI That doesn’t mean they aren’t straight, there are trans women who have the ability and are comfortable doing that, and if a femboy and a trans women are in a relationship like that, it’s straight.

I don’t think mine is, she certainly doesn’t bother me. Two things about being AMAB that I actually kinda like are my mustache and my genitals.

Aww dang it, it was only after I posted this that I remembered the alternate meaning of ACAB. I thought it was just funny and relatable at the time since I’m a trans woman who feels that part doesn’t invalidate my identity.

Say what you want about Cisco, but their hold music slaps

https://youtu.be/nLpm4aysr8I

How does my home instance lemm.ee fare? Are they a good one?

Makes sense to me, AMAB these days has little to do with maleness, it just describes if someone was born with a dick and balls, that’s how they decide “It’s a boy” when the baby is born anyway, even though they might be dead wrong 🏳️‍⚧️

That’s what I did as well, just because god or whatever higher power gave me a penis doesn’t make me any less of a woman.

I think it might have been partly because I said to her once that I wanted to try and reduce or prevent muscle loss on HRT and maybe she took that as me having second thoughts about getting HRT. Also she didn’t specifically say that girlmoding or commitment was required for HRT but that she found my lack of it concerning. I shouldn’t beat myself up too much for it though. She was trying to gatekeep me, I didn’t mess up by telling her that.

I was thinking that I would take HRT long enough for permanent changes to set in since one thing that I do worry about is muscle loss on HRT. Then I’d stop taking it and the blockers, probably gradually and let my body’s natural hormones take over again. I’m not sure how bad muscle loss on HRT is, I’ve heard some people say it’s not that bad but I’ve heard others say enthusiastically that it’ll “melt your muscles away like butter”. If it’s closer to the second I definitely plan to stop in the future.

Also yeah, I guess what I’m doing would be considered informed consent, not DIY. Im my defense I’ve heard many people call it DIY and I’m still very much a noob a this whole trans thing (only came out a few months ago and I learn new things everyday 😅).

Agreed, I’m not a fan of being stared at like that just because I’m trans and a tomboy. Happens often (especially since I’m still unfortunately pre-HRT, not for long though).