I (39F) have a “daughter” (15 masc, 15M?) who I guess is now my son. He identifies as masc, which I guess is masculine? So I guess I will use he/him pronouns. And he prefers to be called James or Jimmy. Jimmy has talked about wanting to be a boy before, but he has been very vocal about it as of recent and at first I was just thinking it was a tomboy situation but now that he identifies as masc, I was thinking of how I can support Jimmy and get used to it.
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Why was this removed? If I broke any rules or was offensive I’d really like to know why
The detrans thing. One percent or less of people detrans because of genuine regret, and that sexual abuse thing is a gatekeepy thing that has no verifiable source tmk.
Edit: And I think it’s one percent or less of the people who detransition do so because of regret, which is to say the actual rate is quite low.
I was really trying to come from a helpful place. I did say detransitioning was very rare (twice to try to emphasise it). I thought it was important to talk about because it’s one of the first things I thought about and had to research when my son transitioned to alleviate my own concerns.
I don’t completely remember where I got that SA idea from (I know I didn’t make it up). But, I can’t verify it now, so I am happy to be corrected on that.
I understand the concern, but what we are scared of is putting the idea into a parents head that their kids identity might not be valid because it’s just a phase or caused by trauma. Detransitioning is valid and it happens, but many have this idea that it happens at a much higher rate than it does because stopping temporarily due to social pressure or for practical reasons is often counted as detransitioning in statistics, in addition to the narrative being useful to people out to delegitimize us.
I think creating a safe space for someone to explore themselves is the better way to deal with this, rather than talk about letting doctors gatekeep peoples identities or talking about detransitioning in this way. People need to know they can try something and figure out that nah, it’s not for them. Being trans is not about following a formula or conforming, but about understanding that we are free to express ourselves in whatever way is the most comfortable for us. Trying hormones, or a dress, or a cutting your hair short, or whatever, and then assessing if it’s for you should be valid as the alternative is dooming many to never being allowed to be themselves in order to save the less than one percent that might regret it (and a safe space to explore would make this less of an issue anyways, HRT only does so much if you only take it briefly).
But again, we understand that you came from a place of love and wanting to be helpful, but we needed to remove the comment.