The white ground is going out to the pole and the green one is my grounding rod, should the green one not be bonded to the pannel not the bus bar?
Note not an electrician, but my copper water lines feel live and a few switches in my house give us shocks

It sounds like you’ve got a grounding problem that may not be inside the panel. Is there an actual grounding rod?
I’ve seen people hook the ground to copper pipes, but that’s not up to code and can energize the plumbing.
I’ve also seen grounding rods cut in half to make them easier to drive (and get to snatch the extra copper).