Hi, transmasc teen here. I have had a past with the social worker at my high school refusing to use the correct name and pronouns because I have to come out to my family if I do so. I don’t wanna have to come out to my family, because even the most supportive members are anti-Testosterone. I am pro-Testosterone. They also say I will always have boobs and a vagina even if I get the surgeries because that’s how I was born, and that I’m just a confused girl, when I know in my heart I am Anthony the sure and secure guy.
I haven’t had a session with her in a while, so I don’t know if she will use Anthony and he/him in private, but she won’t let other teachers know that’s what I would like to be called and calls me my birth name and uses she/her pronouns, but “feels bad”. IDK if this is some law or what. I’ll give her the benefit of the doubt and say maybe she just can’t lose her job.
There are definitely jurisdictions where teachers/counsellors are obligated to get permission from parents to use names that don’t match the sex listed elsewhere.
I wonder if the counsellor would object to using a nickname that’s not similar to your name but is still a girls name. I only ask because Toni Braxton is a woman, maybe you could tell your counsellor you’re really inspired by her and would she please call you “Toni”?