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Looking for: dark chocolate bar with dried fruit/nuts on top, purchased at costco a few years ago. Packaging is dark purple, about the size of a cutting board, and clear in front to see the chocolate.

A few years ago someone purchased this delicious dark chocolate bar with dried fruit on it. They bought it around christmas time. The box was fairly large, dark purple, and clear plastic in front so you could see the chocolate and dried fruits and nuts (raspberries, blackberries, pistachios, strawberries, and some other things). ...

Pat12 OP ,

Can you give some examples?

Is this normal? Applied for a govt job and they offered me something completely different

I applied for a contract job at one of the government offices in a certain field and they gave me an offer at the place but for a completely unrelated field after one interview, without any communication on doing so. For example, if I were in medicine, it's like being a face doctor and they gave me a job in podiatry. Is this ...

Pat12 OP ,

Seems like a basic safety/planning kind of question since you’d be in the middle of a body of water

I think so, too. Swimming with a life jacket in my opinion is more difficult than swimming without one. However, I would think that treading water is more difficult than swimming with a life jacket so maybe if swimming with a life jacket is the expectation, then that's ok.

Pat12 ,

of all the places to not have easy access to healthcare…

What gets you downvoted?

What sort of post or comment gets you downvoted the most? Especially if you don’t think it’s bad behavior in the first place, or don’t care. Does not have to be on Lemmy, but we are here… One of the good things about Lemmy IMO is that it’s small enough to see the posts that are unpopular. If you do “Top Day” on ...

Pat12 ,

I got downvoted recently for saying “If you’re friends with someone, wouldn’t you want to know if they’re also friends with someone problematic?” and “I would definitely want to know if my friends were close with people who’d been in prison.”

Pat12 ,

socialism has been shown to be worse,

uh…

Pat12 ,

Ignoring the fact that gender dysphoria is a real thing whereas hysteria isn’t,

I’m not sure how you can make this your premise; back then hysteria was very much “a real thing”. Also one could say that doctors have manipulated people undergoing surgery now into giving consent

Pat12 ,

When I’m feeling blue about something for a while, I do try to exercise daily. I don’t know whether or not endorphins make a difference for me but I do not that I feel more awake after exercising. I like the feeling that I accomplished something for that day and it keeps my routine regular. The alternative that I can spend a lot of time thinking about something troubling me and I’m not productive.

Pat12 ,

I wouldn’t use “never get to experience” but i would say it’s much harder to have that real sense of community that we easily found in the 90s, early 2000s, etc.

People are more connected to others but still more isolated from others. We were less connected to other people back then so people made a real effort to come up with fun activities and bond together. For kids, it’s the lack of just playing outside in the neighbourhood with friends. For adults, it’s the lack of third places and community/religious events.

Pat12 ,

Though to an extent, the lack of community, especially amongst children is due to the complete lack of independence and they have to depend on their parents to drive them everywhere.

where do you live that there’s not even a playground or a residential street within walking distance of your home?

What is the word for someone who is friends with different groups but doesn't have loyalty to any one group?

The closest word I can think of is a sycophant but that’s too strong word and not exactly what I’m looking for. The word I’m thinking of has negative connotations and it’s for someone who is friends with different groups but only at a superficial level and isn’t necessarily honest about who all they’re friends with. ...

Pat12 OP ,

They keep their connections hidden; it is the other groups who when asked state that they are friendly with this person.

Pat12 OP ,

Opportunist is definitely closer to what i’m thinking than sycophant.

Pat12 OP ,

disingenuous

disingenuous could definitely be it; they’re not straightforward about their intentions.

Pat12 OP ,

If you’re friends with someone, wouldn’t you want to know if they’re also friends with someone problematic?

Pat12 OP ,

I’ve had friends that were friends with ex-cons, etc.

you do you but I would definitely want to know if my friends were close with people who’d been in prison. If I worked in a field where they do background checks i would absolutely need to know if my friends were friends with those in prison. There’s a difference between dictating who people are friends with and knowing who people you give information to are close with.

Pat12 OP ,

sorry what do you mean? english is not my first language

Pat12 OP ,

I live in Asia, if you tell the wrong person you are a democracy supporter you can get arrested or on a watch list

Pat12 OP ,

I am not really understanding this, anyway I am looking for a word for someone who will be friends with pro-govt and pro-democracy people and you can’t trust a person like this or you will get arrested

Pat12 OP ,

Hmm I think it’s fine if someone is a social butterfly, they don’t have bad intentions etc. I am talking about someone who seems like you can trust them but actually they have other loyalties, I live in a place where people get arrested for supporting democracy for example

Pat12 OP ,

i learned a new word, thank you!

Pat12 OP ,

duplicitous

i learned a new word, thank you!

Pat12 OP ,

In any case, political crimes (“democracy supporter”) are just more justification to not care, imo.

you are saying you want people to not care about who they share information with when they live under a state that will arrest you for many more reasons than someone in the west would expect?

Pat12 OP ,

I heard them called “bats” because they flap around between different groups and are associated with darkness thus “shady”!

hahahahah

Pat12 OP ,

no, it’s normal to have a variety of friends

i’m talking about people with loyalty to a specific ideology and they are not honest about who they are in contact with, i live in asia in an area where you can get in a lot of trouble if you support democracy and if you share such information with the wrong person you can get in a lot of trouble

Pat12 OP ,

Not a good way to make them see reason. I know it’s hypothetical but if you’re friends shouldn’t you put in some effort to help instead of just drop them?

you’re planning to spend time debating with a ziganwu? or if you’re western, a staunch far-left or far-right supporter or someone with very racist views?

Pat12 OP ,

That is such a heads-up for me in terms of making assumptions based on my own privilege, and I apologise for doing that here. I’m very lucky to be able to discuss politics without fear.

it’s ok, everyone has their own problems

my wording was maybe not clear

Pat12 OP ,

I know people who were Christians in Afghanistan, who were outed to the government (Taliban). The word they use is “spy”. It may not be the normal, English use of the word, but it’s the word that real-life people who have been on the receiving end of the betrayal use.

This is basically what i mean; someone who you can’t fully trust about their allegiance.

That is really awful what happened to those people; are they ok now?

Pat12 OP ,

Orr would defend his Communist friends to his Fascist freinds and he would defend his Fascist friends to his Communist friends. No one ever defended Orr because he was too weird.

yes this is basically what I mean

Pat12 ,

They will openly say this and still the US does nothing to stop it

Pat12 ,

Would you rather he, as a non-government affiliated citizen, pick a side? War is stupid. Communication is great. Maybe this is naive of me, but I think the world would be better, and maybe require less war, if everyone had equal access to communication.

I recently read about Ted Hall who shared nuclear secrets with the Soviet Union because he thought everyone should have equal access to nuclear weapons and this would prevent another world war.

Your logic is similar and it’s not a good thing.

Pat12 ,

my guy…

US citizens are obligated to enter the US on their US passport. They are also obligated to file taxes regardless of where they live. As a US citizen, you could be living on Mars for your whole life and still have to file US taxes.

You also have what, 6 years of back taxes to file? You should find a CPA with knowledge us US/German tax laws to prepare that for you. There may be treaties in place.

As someone else said, there’s also the selective service you were supposed to have registered for

Can someone go swimming if they are recovering from torn ligaments in the foot?

I got into a mild accident last week; after being checked out, i don’t have anything broken but i have torn ligaments in one of my feet. My recovery has mostly been resting my foot and not putting pressure on; i’m not allowed to go for a walk. Would I be able to go swimming? This way I can keep my foot from being stiff but i ...

Pat12 ,

don’t they teach about the biological use of hair in science class to kids?

Pat12 ,

we *should *ban circumcision, it’s genital mutilation and children cannot consent

Pat12 ,

Or fries are just potato strips cooked in oil.

well, yeah? what’s wrong with saying that? this is not the same point you’re making about chicken breast vs chicken mash

Pat12 OP ,

the berries, i'm looking to make a rub