In today’s high-pressure society, we are constantly fed a fable of individualism, exceptionalism, determination, and ingenuity and taught a mythology of grin and bear it; no pain, no gain; and hard work pays off, despite the fact that the conditions for success are unpredictable and ever changing.
Psychologist Tara Cousineau claims that perfectionism is a paradox: it is the tension created by the need for belonging, a desire for excellence, and a quest for a meaningful and productive life. But perfectionism can be transformed by learning to connect both head and heart, replacing inner algorithms of comparison and criticism with...
The Marx Brothers' first sound film, based on a musical of the same name which was written specially for them. Groucho plays a hotel manager, Harpo and Chico are a pair of pickpockets and Zeppo is the hotel receptionist. ...
There's nothing wrong with that! That's not what I'm saying. I like people who are #spontaneous and are willing to create rather than let #perfectionism ruin everything!
If these were perfectionists they would never release this and that's the #beauty of it that they decided there's enough good stuff in here that even with the bad, it's still good enough and worthwhile to watch!
I'm curious how many of my fellow ActuallyAutistic group folks struggle with perfectionism. For me, It's a constant struggle to forgive myself for making small mistakes in relationships or causing conflict. I also put a lot of pressure on myself to follow a budget, get my chores done, etc. with very little self-forgiveness for not being perfect in those areas.
Do others have this experience? And if so, any tips on giving myself more space to be human?
Ann Patchett: “If a person of any age picked up the cello for the first time and said, ‘I’ll be playing at Carnegie Hall next month!’ you would pity their delusion, yet beginning fiction writers all across the country polish up their best efforts and send them off to The New Yorker” (‘This is the story of a happy marriage,’ p. 28).
Would that I had even a small bit of that courage (or audacity).
The Cocoanuts (1929) (first Marx Brothers sound film) ( fedi.video )
The Marx Brothers' first sound film, based on a musical of the same name which was written specially for them. Groucho plays a hotel manager, Harpo and Chico are a pair of pickpockets and Zeppo is the hotel receptionist. ...