What you have described isn’t being mentally abusive. I’m really sorry you’re in this position. Please don’t convince yourself this behaviour makes you an abusive person: it doesn’t.

When your friends express that they want you to find help, it’s because they care about you. They want you to come out of this and thrive.

Thank you! I’ve never come across one but it sounds delicious.

I think the closest I’ve had is getting a beef sandwich with a pot of gravy to dip it in myself.

Nothing straight in this house!

Right, I understand.

There are browsers that implement a lot of Tor Browser’s anti-fingerprinting features, such as LibreWolf.

The problem is that if you’re connecting to a site from an unique IP address then you’re still uniquely identifiable regardless of how much your browser resists fingerprinting measures. If you have a dynamic IP address, information can still be derived from this to build an approximate profile for you (location, language, possible interests, statistically likely demographic bands etc.). It’s surprising how accurate these can get.

The strength of the anti-fingerprinting features in Tor browser is really an additional protection on top of the main anonymisation feature: the routing. Everyone using the Tor browser and routing appears (kind of) the same to a site.

Connecting through a VPN provider is a half-way measure, but still won’t be as good as Tor. To a site or tracker you’ll appear as one of a smaller set of people connecting from that VPN where your browser fingerprint is different from others in the pool of people connecting via that VPN. That may not be enough to personally identify you, but it’s enough to build a fairly well-targeted profile of you.

So tl;dr: anti-fingerprinting browser features are really cool and technically clever, but they don’t protect against all the ways you can be profiled. And somewhat counter-intuitively, using only browser-level de-anonymisation features could actually make you appear more unique to sites or trackers, because you’ll be one of relatively few people with that combination of browser and network connection profile.

Okay I’ve never heard of this before and I need to ask: what makes it “wet”?

Nice monstera!

A big part of the anonymisation of Tor is from the routing, so I’m doubtful that just using their Firefox customizations would be enough.

Using Tor Browser with default settings is probably the least time consuming way of reducing a site’s ability to uniquely identify you.

Following your advice and that of others on this post, I’ve changed the soil again and made sure I’ve removed all the existing waterlogged soil from the roots. Some of the roots came away when I was removing the soil, but the rest felt healthy and there wasn’t any sign or smell of rot. I’ve repotted with new soil and some stones/pebbles at the botton of the pot to allow for some better drainage.

Finally I’ve positioned the plant somewhere it’ll get more sunlight, so I’ll wait and hope for the best.

Owner told me “there’s no such thing as a house plant”, only plants we keep indoors.

This feels so nakedly obvious now I’ve thought about it 🤦🏻

No, thanks for that advice though! I’ve checked very closely and haven’t found anything like that. A friend has pointed out it might be root rot, so I’m going to repot it tomorrow and trim any mushy root I find.

Thanks for the advice. I’ll leave it alone and hope we get some more sunlight.

It’s been said by other people here but I think it’s worth repeating: you are not the problem in this situation.

Your mom has put you in a difficult position, and I don’t think it’s unreasonable for your girlfriend to ask you to push back against your mom. It’s a difficult situation but it’s not one you created and if your mom or the rest of your family give you a hard time for siding with your girlfriend, then that shows a lack of respect for you.

I got hooked on Arcane.

It depends on your thresholds. Most of the weird shit was sexual, which I don’t have a moral issue with other than I didn’t consent to be exposed to it.

Oh wow. I know we don’t know each other but I want to thank you, and other people, doing this job. It’s so important.

I worked two separate jobs doing film photo processing when I was a university student. The first was at a factory that handled a lot of police photography. I saw way more crime scene photos than I needed to.

The second time was in the photo development lab for a high street pharmacy chain. I swear, either people didn’t realise their photos were developed and handled by other people, or some of them really got off on us seeing their weird shit.

I don’t know anything about its effect on fertility. I know people who have conceived while on SSRIs, but that’s purely anecdotal.

It’s going to be a judgement call on your part. SSRIs have been in use for long enough that I would expect there’s a big pool of data around fertility rates, even if it’s not had much analysis done on it. Also, rat models are useful but need to be understood in their context. One study in rats is not overwhelming evidence.

Is this a side for a meal, or a dessert?

I’ve never attempted to make bagels before but these make me want to try.