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Cake day: July 16th, 2023

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  • I feel you, friend. Similar situation here, possibly reversed. If I’m grumpy, or mad, or just having a rough day, I have to be exceptionally careful in bringing that to my partner. They deal with a lot, so when I add anything to that pile, it often explodes. So the pattern is me saying ‘Here’s something I am upset about. Please can I have five minutes of your time to listen to me.’, then two days of me comforting my partner because they somehow contributed to this and they hate themselves for it.












  • I work in an environment that can have some tight timeline, high stress moments. People often deal with this with a kind of controlled panic- “Hi. This thing is not working.” “Fuck, this is not working, quick, try that thing! Argh! Not working either! Oh no, shits fucked. Shit… Ok, try the other thing! Fuck, call Gary, they might know what to do!”

    Then I worked with a person who had this totally different approach. When shit hit the fan, they just super calmly looked around, and said “That’s a bit boring.” Just that phrase shifted my whole perspective on the industry. Just treat the problem as a minor annoyance, and you’ll see that it’s rarely worth getting panicked about.

    The other thing they taught me- no matter how urgent it is, never run. Running makes it look like we fucked up. And we don’t fuck up, we just have the next thing that needs to be fixed.






  • I was entirely confused for a moment- I think you might be getting an echocardiogram, rather than an electrocardiogram. If you could hear an electrocardiogram, there would be something seriously wrong with their machine- It’s meant to be a passive electrical measurement. Echo on the other hand is exactly what you described, an ultrasound of the heart.

    I was actually thinking you might have a strong interoception, which is when people have an awareness of their own heartbeat signals- super rare but super cool.