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  • I am not surprised the group stuff actually clicked though. Individual therapy once every two weeks is honestly a joke for real issues. You spend forty minutes just giving a status update on your life and then the session is over. It does nothing for actual skill-building. Those IOPs are a grueling time-sink, but they force you to actually sit with the garbage in your head instead of just ignoring it until your next fifty-minute slot.

    You really hit the nail on the head at why standard timeframe individual therapy seems to have just sucked for me. Therapy appointments never coincided with issues…and then it’s basically just tell me about the past two weeks. “Ok bye.” While therapists in my experience have always been eager to try to give input to me…I just haven’t been able to have as much direct guidance as I needed. I’ll cry about a bad day to them, but the suggestions given afterwards never seemed to help me enough.

    Then I went the other way and bought a comprehensive DBT workbook. Good lord! It has helped me too, but over time I realized that it was way too dense and actually gave way TOO many techniques for it to be effective in my life. These bite sized, but 3x/week DBT chunks make it a lot easier to try to add in skills to daily life.

    Just be careful with that “needing a therapist less” talk from your provider. It sounds great in theory, but in my experience, that is usually just insurance-speak for trying to kick people out of the system once they are stable enough to not be an immediate problem.

    Well it’s a bit different like that for me. I often complain to her about the cost of things and why all of my therapy and psychiatry appointments are not great for me monetarily. I have a crazy high deductible plan, so it is very expensive for me to see providers so often. The IOP program is a temporary hit to my financials (which I’m in a great position for) to potentially actually get some better help and ways to cope long term…as opposed to my current ineffective methods that still cost a lot of money overall.

    I actually DON’T want to be in therapy long term. I want to be able to cope with life better myself. I would still obviously be open to seeing one in times of struggle, but I want to actually be able to have enough positive change in my life where it isn’t really needed as much anymore, if at all.



  • I have regrettably made suicidal gestures in my life or even been so distressed that I have impulsively wanted to do things like crash my car full speed into a telephone pole.

    But a particular thing happened a few months ago…not really related to my life…rather a podcast I found and began listening to. Something clicked in my brain and I am now absolutely fucking terrifying of death. I really really don’t want to fucking not exist anymore and I know that it is inescapable. I started looking around at others in the background of my daily life like…

    “What the fuck are we even doing here? Doesn’t everyone realize that we are all going to die? Doesn’t everyone realize that they will just cease to exist one day? I don’t want to die. Everything we are going right now is pointless and a waste of time. Why is everyone on the planet not all scrambling to figure out how to not cease to exist forever?”

    I can’t stop thinking about it, really. It’s terrifying.

    Please don’t reply to me with copium about how you love that you’re going to become dirt because it’s part of the earth or some shit. I’m not interested and it doesn’t work on me.

    But I think I kind of get you, OP.



  • That one user is a bit dramatic and unhinged…but to have a counterpoint to the OP, some people just aren’t animal people. And that’s ok (unless you want to murder it for no reason…that’s another issue). They probably make up a larger portion of people than you’d think. This sort of stuff won’t work on them.

    I would probably put myself in the non animal lover camp. I just don’t like most animals… especially dogs that jump all over you or bark incessantly . Part of that is a training issue, but another part of it is just their nature. My brother has a large dog. She is sweet and they have her trained well…but you can tell she is exercising extreme restraint against her nature to not pummel into you with excitement. On occasion, she doesn’t listen.

    There are a few pets that I have adored and loved, but they are more the exception rather than the rule. And that’s ok.

    Anyway, the TL;DR of this is, like anything, this isn’t a one size fits all. It won’t be applicable to a larger population of people than you think. I feel the same way about people touting that exercise cures everyone of mental health issues. Some? Sure. Anywhere remotely close to all? No.




  • I honestly don’t cook so it is a non issue for me. I don’t set my takeout and silverware directly onto the counter without a plate. I have always kept fruit and veggies in the fridge, even if you can technically leave them unrefrigerated. Maybe I’m weird, but I put things like apples and loaves of bread in the fridge, even before getting a cat. I get microwavable things that go directly from the freezer into the microwave.


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    I built a whole ass cat wall and my cat has literally never used it beyond one step.

    Even though he can jump crazy high and far, I’m wondering if he would like some intermediate steps between the shelves but idk. I did notice that he stumbled jumping between them for treats the one time.





  • Am I missing something or are you conflating two different issues? Why isn’t anyone saying anything about this?

    Password security and internet privacy are totally independent issues. I obviously don’t want random people to be able to log into my bank account and steal my money.

    But I’m sorry, I’m one of those people who don’t care about “privacy”, even after reading all of your comments here. Everyone is keen on using “slippery slope” sentiments like “suddenly the government is going to go after you for 3D printing” or “suddenly the government is going to throw you in jail for chronically going little bit over the speed limit” or even that the government is going to hunt you down for using Lemmy.

    It’s like well…yes…those are technically within the realm of possibility. I’ll give you that. But is it likely to ever happen? No, not really. Some of us are ok with that probability. It’s ok if you aren’t. But it’s ok for those of us that are.

    Most people on Lemmy read as doomsday preppers to me. I’d wager many here are preppers. You have to understand how outside the norm you guys all are and how outside the likelihood of what you’re saying can be. Check out some prepper communities if you’re interested in what I see in you all.

    I hope this doesn’t offend anyone. I also just hope that you can see why it’s ok to let non-preppers continue to be non-preppers. Idk.