Lemmy.zip is nice, but I think my definitive home is going to be lemmy.today because it’s even closer to lemm.ee in federation (or that was my impression).

Probably “Millennials” hating that you’re too young to claim their tag, and “Zoomers” hating that you’re too old to claim theirs. Whatever. We are the mid-90s (even 90s) babies, and that’s a cool name even if a little longer.

I get the point, but it’s not a good way of defending it. The ADHD medication might be okay, but here is framed as an exaggeration, and the other one is not good.

Furthermore, many of those interventions are detrimental or at least dangerous. Mine was orthodontics and it ended terribly; today, I would need a surgery to correct all the damage caused. While I was a difficult case, it’s not uncommon. In recent years, braces are being reconsidered as they alter a developing skull, often atrophiating something while repairing something else. Sports in childhood can have an impact in adulthood. This one I’m also living it closely as my mother was one of those girls inspired by Nadia Comăneci to start gymnastics. Today, she’s living a hard late adulthood.

We’ve normalized not listening to children and thinking of them as our properties. Medical interventions (I literally pointed out the problem with my treatment and I was ignored) or the lack of them can be a sign of this. We need to balance their developing cognitive abilities with their autonomy, not shadowing their autonomy all together. That’s the argument. Telling people “things are already done, so what’s the problem?” is fallacious at best and counterproductive at worst.

I’ve learnt some “hacks” from How to ADHD (both the YouTube channel and the book).

Something that works for me is “bribing” myself. Either with a planner you enjoy filling, a calendar with stickers, or a reward like TV time or music (not food), give yourself a reason to do your activities beyond the activities themselves.

Another one that’s not always possible for me, but works, is getting non-negative external pressure. Deadlines often get people to start, but that’s too much stress, and we don’t want that stress. A similar thing to a deadline without the anxiety is body doubling. It consists of doing your activity while other person or people do theirs, and you can report back in the middle or only at the end. The idea is that you feel like you need to do it because people are counting on it, without it being super stressful. You might feel watched, you might feel their expectatives on you, you might simply want to exchange your results at the end. However it goes, it might work for you. A variant of this is telling your plans to someone important and then you’ll feel like you need to do it so you can tell them how it went.

My emergency remedy (only when I’m unmedicated for ADHD, because I wouldn’t mix it with my medication): caffeine. Caffeine is a stimulant, so it has interesting effects on people with ADHD. Depending on age, metabolism, and quantity, it can be relaxing or “quieting”; it can also help with focus; and it can give a boost to productivity. A cup of good coffee and I do the laundry, cook, write back to people, etc. Now, be careful because a) you can become hooked to caffeine and become one of those people that cannot function without it, b) even without an addiction, if you use it too much, your body will get resistant for a time and it will lose its effectivity, c) some cannot tolerate caffeine well, for example, people with cardiopathies or bipolar disorder. I cannot drink it for long without causing havoc in my sleep and mood. Be careful with caffeine.

And those are the strongest for me. I do recommend getting the How to ADHD book, even if you’re not dealing with ADHD but a mood disorder, a difficult time in your life, etc. The tips are helpful nonetheless.

Star Wars: The Last Jedi for me. I don’t remember details, but I remember liking it and thinking it was nice to bring original things to the saga (especially because episode VII was almost a tribute to episode IV). Then fans complained and they reverted a lot of themes and things 💔.

Maybe this is about general health, like prostate cancer, phimosis, etc.

Same, but with fascists/far-right wingers and their fashion. I’m shaving my head and dressing punkier because I hate this old-money vibe so many are trying to get. Sorry, no, rebellious leftists (and not billionaires) are my inspiration.

My experience is the opposite. Adolescence was horrible, young adulthood was hard, adulthood has been better. I am taking care of myself and I am happy with my relationships.

I bet the videos about NPD contributed a lot. “Narcissists have dilated pupils/different eyes”, “a narcissist never knows they are a narcissist”, “NPD and ASPD are almost the same”, etc. Pop psychology is the default information for narcissism.

Also, the ASD and ADHD videos. Starting with the RSD myth in ADHD (it has not been scientifically proven, and the reaction can be explained by the not officially recognized yet more evidence-based emotional dysregulation in ADHD), followed by the stereotypes, the anecdotes turned into symptoms, etc. I’ve found some inaccurate videos about dyslexia, tics, etc. The popularity of neurodevelopmental disorders has been bittersweet.

Oh! I’ve seen some BD misinformation, especially comparing type 1 and type 2 bipolar disorder. This is also pervasive on Reddit. For example, that type 2 depression is worse. No, type 2 may have longer and more frequent depressive episodes, but the severity is the same (it isn’t “worse” or “more severe” or “deeper”, they just spend more time in it in average). Another one is that type 1 do not experience hypomanias or not as often, when they are the ones experiencing more hypomanic time in average (because type 2 spends that extra time depressed, while type 1 has more balanced times in average). Also, not remembering that these are statistics, not rules. Many people with BD-I tend to a depressive polarity (some studies have found this is the case for many bipolar patients as age progresses) and many people with BD-II will spend less time depressed than others with BD-II.

Some unipolar depression videos are okay, but eventually you reach the “just go for a walk”, “medication is a scam”, and other antipsychiatry and pseudoscientific nonsense. There are too many of those and the algorithm will mix them up sometimes. Also, a lot of misinformation about the different depressive disorders, and about these different depressive disorders versus the specifiers of depressive episodes (two very different things).

Claims about OCD being an anxiety disorder when the DSM-5 has an exclusive category for OCD and related disorders. This one comes from old/outdated sources.

Let’s not mention the DID (and other disorders that have been a) fad, that is, that people literally lied about having a mental disorder. These people also exaggerated the symptoms. “My DID causes me to switch every five minutes between my more than a hundred personalities”. I mean, nobody in their right mind would think this is medical information, but still, a lot of BS there.

Recently, the “BPD does not exist and it’s just a name for traumatized people, especially women” is gaining weight, when it’s true that many borderline diagnoses come with a history of trauma, but not all of them. And even if we were to find that trauma is always present, that would make the classification appear in both the disorders caused by trauma/stress and the personality disorders, and studies about the difference between BPD and forms of PTSD would be needed, but the concept wouldn’t just disappear because the clinical picture is still useful.

God… I guess this issue is a pet peeve of mine. I feel like I can continue, but this is a wall of text already.

I think excellent information is also on TikTok, like Dr. Tracey Marks and, for Spanish speakers, Dr. Rodrigo Corona. I’ve learnt some interesting things about PMDD on TikTok, and speculation often leads to interesting research (either already done but rediscovered or new and ongoing research). This is the case for other fields too. This year, I’ve seen more doctors recommending myo-inositol and berberine as a science-based treatment for PCOS; years ago, social media was commenting on this but doctors were just catching up and research was still scarce. You can see this shift in Dr. Tracey Marks videos, actually. Her latest videos include recommendations like yoga, keto diet, and ashwaghanda. Years ago, this was the equivalent of detox juices and crystal healing for many people, but today we know it has some therapeutic benefits (they aren’t cures, they aren’t enough on their own, but they help). So… yeah. My point is that there are experts on TikTok sharing good information, and that not all new information on social media is pseudoscience, it’s just science on the making, incomplete science, and you can know this because there’s some evidence and one just need to wait for more.

The trick is to distinguish the informative “content creators” versus the misleading ones. I believe YouTube has a verification feature for accurate health information; TikTok could (and should) follow.

I like the intros in True Detective (S1), and X-Files. Animated: X-Men TAS, Gravity Falls, BoJack Horseman.

From the top of my head, I didn’t enjoy much the Six Feet Under and the Spinning Out intros because they were too long.

I mean, he can be seen as another Luigi Mangione. The Luigi not of oligarchs but of genocidal people, which, at the end, are the same people (Trump, Thiel, Musk, Netanyahu, etc.). It is, again, a person acting violently about a situation that has many of us disturbed.

Yes, his name happens to be in Spanish; I do not see how that’s damning for other Hispanic people. And I say this as a person that has no opinion about this type of violence (I cannot discern if it’s justified or not), and as someone of mostly Hispanic heritage. I do not know if I support this Rodríguez man, but I can understand his reasons.

I’ll miss Sync. Thunder is nice, though.

1, preferably. 20 if I forget doing the laundry…

The land was already discovered, by the people living in it and even by outsiders like the Nordics. The people from the Pacific islands (I don’t know if the correct term is Polinesia) are also said to have come into contact. From the 15th-16th century onwards, some outsiders decided to destroy civilizations and claim the lands. Yes, the modern nations wouldn’t exist without imperialism and colonization, but I think many indigenous people would have preferred to develop and see the rise and fall of their nations during those centuries (and into the present) without said imperialism and colonization. My latter point is that it is not a “flex”, in case you were thinking it is.

I don’t read enough to consider myself a nerd; I’m kind of ignorant. But… I do like nerd topics.

PTSD/C-PTSD too. Trauma can lead to a state of numbness and partial dissociation, like you’re just floating (kind of apathetically) through your own life.

Huh? I explicitly said I would separate self defense for both sexes, because I believe those aren’t what we are talking about. I wasn’t defending or excusing “women”.

Also, both women and men kill because of serious mental disorders (‘insanity’ in legal terms in the U.S.). How many of those maternal infanticides can be explained by post-partum psychosis or similar conditions? I wouldn’t count murders by insane people (from neither sex).

I suspect you’re not as unbiased as you’d think…

How many of those were self-defense (from either sex)? I wouldn’t mix them for this discussion.

Ecce Homo is… interesting. Quoting Tears for Fear:

And I find it kind of funny
I find it kind of sad

It’s one of his last books and it’s obvious his eccentricity is bordering madness already. It contains chapters like “Why I Am So Wise”, “Why I Am So Clever”, “Why I Write Such Good Books”, and “Why I Am a Destiny”. Some scholars say it’s a provocative or sardonic way of presenting an autobiography; I wouldn’t be so sure.

Thank you, although I’m just a master of none… Yes, I imagine looking for a job with a philosophy degree is limiting. On TikTok, I’ve noticed some recent graduates working on self-made projects (magazines, private classes, etc.). That’s a creative solution that I hope works out for them.