• pomodoro_longbreak@sh.itjust.works
      25Ā·
      2 years ago

      Iā€™ve got one that I treat like gold. Theyā€™re a childhood friend that is a divorced alcoholic ex-con that went down the keto->carnivore->jordan-peterson->red-pill->gamer-gate pipeline, so not exactly a quality human. But I like to think Iā€™m doing society a favour by keeping tabs on them.

      I wish I had a better best friend, but Iā€™m lucky to have even this one.

      • bobs_monkey@lemm.ee
        18Ā·
        2 years ago

        Honestly as long as your friend raises you up in life and doesnā€™t drag you down, thatā€™s a good friend.

      • Simbomba@feddit.de
        1Ā·
        2 years ago

        I think if you wait long enough he will kinda ā€œgrow out of itā€ if it can describe the process correctly. Just once in a while tell him about his wrong doings if he has them

        I mean thatā€™s what friends are for right?

        • pomodoro_longbreak@sh.itjust.works
          2Ā·
          2 years ago

          Yeah definitely. Iā€™ve started to see that process already. Kinda reminds me of when I was a more virulent atheist and wanted to debate everyone, and just generally be a nuisance.

      • Seraph@kbin.social
        10Ā·
        2 years ago

        ā€œEw noā€

        Haha just kidding but making a point how most of us are our own worst enemy on this stuff. We want friends but donā€™t make time for them.

          • Seraph@kbin.social
            4Ā·
            2 years ago

            Thank you! I knew I stole it from somewhere but didnā€™t have a clue where from.

        • pomodoro_longbreak@sh.itjust.works
          5Ā·
          2 years ago

          lol

          We want friends but donā€™t make time for them.

          Definitely. I have lost really solid friends over the years, because I donā€™t put the work in. Iā€™m actually not that great at being a friend to others, which Iā€™m sure isnā€™t super uncommon.

        • Entropywins@kbin.social
          5Ā·
          2 years ago

          Ooof tell me about it that something Iā€™ve done and have had done to me. I used to think friends are something you have, then a mentor explained to me that friends are an investment and we need to invest our time and emotions into them alongside that terrible thingā€¦being vulnerableā€¦I hate good advice

  • girltwink@lemmy.world
    19Ā·
    2 years ago

    Real talk, how do you make (non-romantic) friends as an adult? I only have 3 close friends and all 3 of us are fucking šŸ˜

      • DreamButt@lemmy.worldEnglish
        3Ā·
        2 years ago

        Too many people donā€™t invest into their interests and finding like-minded individuals. There are communities for everything

    • CeruleanRuin@lemmings.worldEnglish
      7Ā·
      2 years ago

      ā€œReal friendsā€ as an adult means people you see more than once a year outside of work and family, who you can name and know the name of at least one of their kids.

    • ComradeKhoumrag@infosec.pub
      2Ā·
      2 years ago

      Be a regular at a theme night at some bars

      Maybe check out if there are any hacker spaces near you if youā€™re more into crafting and making things

      Get addicted to video games and party up with strangers

    • Hofmaimaier@feddit.deOP
      31Ā·
      2 years ago

      Sounds like a fucking good time, but here is the plan: ā€œwhen it comes 2 fucking, donā€™t fuck!ā€

  • _number8_@lemmy.world
    13Ā·
    2 years ago

    spot on

    what annoys me is that ostensibly there are people out there living the fucking dream, somehow. a fRiEnD gRouP and a house and a partner and a fulfilling job and they work out at 5am every morning and feel great.

    society must divide

    • Hofmaimaier@feddit.deOP
      11Ā·
      2 years ago

      ā€œI see in the fight club the strongest and smartest men whoā€™ve ever lived. I see all this potential and I see squandering. God damn it, an entire generation pumping gas, waiting tables, slaves with white collars, advertising has us chasing cars and clothes, working jobs we hate so we can buy shit we donā€™t need. Weā€™re the middle children of the history man, no purpose or place, we have no Great war, no Great depression, our great war is a spiritual war, our great depression is our lives, weā€™ve been all raised by television to believe that one day weā€™d all be millionaires and movie gods and rock stars, but we wonā€™t and weā€™re slowly learning that fact. and weā€™re very very pissed off.ā€ -Tylor Durden

    • SolarNialamide@lemm.ee
      1Ā·
      2 years ago

      I truly donā€™t understand how people have friend groups as adults. It was a pain in the ass to get my 6 friends (two separate groups of 3) together for my birthday with a month notice. One of those friends has a big friend group from high school and now that theyā€™re all around 25 theyā€™re starting to find out just how little opportunity there is to get 12 people together who all live in different places now, have partners, jobs, some even kids already.

        • Hofmaimaier@feddit.deOP
          4Ā·
          2 years ago

          Unstoppable feeling that I have to move and I feel my heart pumping, then my hands and feet canā€™t hold still

          • Rose Thorne(She/Her)@lemm.ee
            3Ā·
            2 years ago

            Hey, someone else with the ā€œRunā€ response! Understand exactly how you feel, though mine likes to spike out with some claustrophobia if it gets really bad.

            What I wouldnā€™t give to understand what the fuck is going wrong with the hardware up there, or at least to be able to afford getting help. At this point, I think Iā€™d take being a Lith zombie over whats currently going on.