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I have regretted both. Sometimes you’ll just get punished for trying to help.
Sometimes you’ll reap enormous rewards through selfishness and cruelty.
I guess the market has spoken. Be a sociopath.
What if you don’t have the mind for that?
Kill the part of yourself that’s holding you back. Hollow yourself out into you are an empty husk, an all consuming void, that relentlessly hungers but can never be filled.
I wish to make certain that everyone is aware this is sarcastic advice, do not do this.
For me, even when a kind act goes punished, I don’t regret the actual decision even if I wish I could have prevented the unintended consequences. But I make an effort to believe that making the right decision is valuable in of itself
I have regretted, sometimes for years, not indulging in a selfish impulse.
Do you regret the action if kindness itself, or do you just abhor the response you got from it?
Oh there are plenty of instances of kindness I’ve regretted. Far more than cruelty since I avoid cruelty. Still, I’d rather regret a failed act of kindness than succeed in an act if cruelty.
Yeah I allowed my own kindness to lead me into a manipulator’s grasp. But then I think about what a friend told me after, how she’d rather be taken advantage of sometimes than callous to the needs of others. What I really needed was to maintain boundaries, and to acknowledge when someone is beyond my help, not to not be kind
First person you have to be kind to is yourself
Being kind and being a doormat are not the same thing.
Yeah, I’m in this camp too
The biggest mistake of my life was an act of kindness.
I’m still kind when I can be, but I’m always ready to regret.
Ah yes, this is why the phrase “no good deed goes unpunished” does not exist.
I’ve regretted once act of kindness. I once helped a stranded student get back to his country. It was, of course, a scam. A fairly elaborate one, including remote co-conspirators etc, but a scam nonetheless.
i’d just be impressed they went through all that trouble for a plane ticket
Obviously it wasn’t for a plane ticket. They were just scamming helpful people, which was the worst part.
oooh, i read this as “somehow at the airport accosted me with sob story until i bought em a flight home”.
