Zoomer here, will go to concerts alone once every few months because I have pretentious taste in music + the one friend I have with very similar tastes is a little agoraphobic
Hell all 3 festivals I’ve been to have also been alone cause people flaking before a big fest is pretty common in general and happened to me all 3 times. Will sometimes try to meet people and hangout, sometimes not depending on what vibe I’m feeling
So many zoomers who find out I do this look at me so weird but like what, am I just not going to enjoy myself and do something I want just because I don’t have somebody to go with?
I have a few friends that are 40+ and it sounds like they do stuff alone frequently. The ~30 year old friends aren’t doing it a lot but they don’t seem to have the same fear zoomers do either. I regularly run into 30+ yo ppl I know at an event there alone but never happens with zoomers
I think it’s more a feature of being secure in oneself, which is less common being young. I remember when I was young, doing things like eating out, going to a movie etc alone seemed weird. then I did those things and it wasn’t. now that I’m an old, I’ve traveled overseas for months at a time, explored places, moved to new states, and lived entirely on my own in new places and had to find/cultivate an entirely new social circle. it just feels like being independent.
I think in my late teens/early 20s the idea of doing all that on my own was overwhelming, whereas doing things in a little group or as part of a couple seemed much easier.
there are people my age that would find it so even now, but they are probably in the minority. being > 40 and not being capable of many doing things on your own is more the “odd” situation.
We tend to do things alone when we feel secure in ourselves and enjoy our own company. That’s going to be highly individualistic, but there’s going to be some cultural pieces too, COVID lockdowns threw a lot of people off. I’m an old, and I go grocery shopping by myself a lot of times so my partner and I don’t have to make a whole big thing about it. But being l before I got married and at times since, I’ll go and do social things alone, it can be intimidating and or feel like a power move. It can be a nice mix up for routine life things, give it a try! I think it comes more with age for a lot of people, you’ve been around long enough to stop caring what other people might think.
