🐝bownage [they/he]

✨ 👋 Dutch queer person (they/he) | I like taking to people online

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Cake day: June 8th, 2023

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  • Yes yes yes preach it!!

    Don’t forget OP, your friends can be wrong (even if they mean well) and NO one can tell you who you are or what your gender is except for yourself. How you feel inside is valid. If you don’t quite know for sure how you feel yet, that’s also valid. And who knows, they’ll probably come around to the idea of you being nonbinary once you grow more confident in your gender and radiate it into the world in an undeniable fashion 💜💛🤍🖤🩵🤍🩷









  • Welcome, new academia dropout! Trust me, it’s better this way. I’m sorry to hear you had to deal with hubris and narcissism. Not surprisingly also my least favourite part about it and indirectly the reason I ended up quitting my PhD.

    My supervisors were a married couple and all my work was rated facing a team of 2 people who would always take each other’s side and were never open to hearing my perspective on my own work. The graduate school later informed me they never should have been my only supervisors. Yay for paying it forward I guess.

    Anyway, it might still be a little fresh but when applying for positions outside of academia, start thinking about how to phrase your challenges or hangups there as avenues for personal growth. Corporate loves that shit.

    Good luck out there!