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  • yeah i completely agree with that part… just i think in terms of costs i wanted to know for real if its a good argument, and figured id document it

    yall have some of the highest per capita healthcare costs in the world, and some of the worst health outcomes among peer economies. “too expensive” and “better quality” are both terrible arguments based on the reality of the situation (lol reality… because that matters)

    … but it’s also interesting to put into perspective: that $2b/day doesn’t even come close to healthcare costs (although… it’s not an order of magnitude off, so there’s that i guess)



  • quick estimate because i’ve seen this a few times:

    australia spends ~$279b/y on health (~$190b usd)

    australia is roughly the population of texas at 27.6m

    us population is 340m

    so all things being equal that’s $2.2t usd for the us population

    so after 6y at war you could have had 1y of healthcare

    ngl i was really hoping it’d be closer :(

    (but of course this is bullshit anyway because yall already pay for healthcare, and lives extinguished vs lives saved etc etc… thus the “all things being equal” like circular cow in a vacuum)







  • your partners in poly relationships are among your best sources of support and advice. they know you, and they likely know your other partners pretty well too. your metamores (partners partners) can also help, as everyone in all parts of poly relationships should want everyone else to be happy (clearly they don’t want someone their partner cares about to be unhappy)

    (that said, since yall are relatively young with poly things, they may not have your best interests at heart i guess… they might see your communication as a way to drive a wedge between your partner and you so they can have him all to themselves… that is incredibly unhealthy, and if they do think in any way like this the poly relationship won’t last in the long term: metamores all have to share)

    communication is always the biggest thing. speak your needs, and don’t assume that they know how you’re feeling

    it’s also more than possible that they just express their relationship differently. perhaps there’s things that you and he do that his boyfriend is envious of too

    try and figure out if behaviours are actually things that you want or if it’s just jealousy… jealousy is something you absolutely need to get over for poly to work: try to develop that into compersion: be happy that your partners are happy. if you can’t, that’s fine too! but don’t let it consume you. in that case, the relationship (or poly in general… poly sounds great in theory, but takes a lot of emotional maturity, knowledge of yourself, and just plain work) might just not be for you - yet.

    again, you have another partner: use them for support, either to work out your needs and then how to communicate them, or to deal with the emotional fallout if things don’t work out





  • i took the phrase

    You don’t need to understand why they struggle, just accept that they do.

    to mean that you shouldn’t assume someone is lying. they just might have different circumstance or needs. that doesn’t invalidate their experience, just that you’re solving different problems (which may not have been well communicated, and also may not even be technical problems).

    if you’re trying to solve their problems, then sure that’s a discussing… but 99% of tech conversations on the internet like this are people berating others for “not understanding” the “simple” way it’s done because it works fine for them