we agree that cheating in a monogamous relationship is a shitty thing to do. but it isn’t a lack of consent issue.

sex without consent is rape. and having an affair with a consenting individual, despite being a shitty thing to do, isn’t rape. not even in the same ballpark of shitty.

red flags, liberal, girlboss.

not a red flag but, how does she has multiple baby daddies+family court while also not being a mother?

and nothing of value was lost

don’t get the question

that’s a genuinely good question. check out what Chiapas or Rojava did/do instead.

mostly based on mediation, but their worst punishment is exile, which basically means the society at large does not consent to interact with them. which means they have to find a new community where news of their crimes will follow them. or end up living in solitary confinement in the wilderness, which might be a death sentence.

although in a war, you do not want to arbitrarily return prisoners of war. let alone let them go free. and even though they were fash, killing POW is a war crime.

Ask Chiapas, it went well for them.

Not like governments are the leading cause of marginalized oppression.

Governments don’t build infrastructure, people do, governments gatekeep infrastructure

Civilization is the most uncivil human creation

And? so was Durham University, and Cambridge, and Oxford.

there’s something to that, but we shouldn’t go to Idiocracy, funny movie, but still eugenic rethoric.

globally intelligence is rising, is based on education and child quality of life, that’s why America is doing all it can to gut education and promote child misery.

I can smell that picture, it ain’t smell good

then we’re getting stuck on something we agree on.

you said that the problem in cheating is that the third party didn’t consent. no one needs a third party consent for sex,

i won’t disagree about it being a violation of a the relationships boundaries.

but if your monogamous partner has consentual sex with someone else, you can get upset, but that doesn’t mean he raped you by having sex without your consent.

ok, so? They aren’t the ones having sex in the affair, although it’s a violation if her relationship expectations, a partner doesn’t need to consent for other people’s sex. she isn’t in bed with them.

still a shitty thing to do, but people going to have sex do not need third party consent from people who aren’t in the room.

although in this case, it seems like it wasn’t an affair but sexual harassment. so this hypothetical conversation isn’t relevant.

this opinion isn’t from the Poly community, I’m doing relationship anarchy with a few partners. and so far it has been fulfilling for me and my partners. no one in with needs my consent for their own relationships, but they have my blessings.

don’t care if my partner cheats on me, let them have fun. but cheating on me with AI!!!? hell no.

sometimes I fear Lemmy is becoming like reddit, with every conversation being a fight with no leeway on the smallest things. which makes me more defensive, which makes me part of the problem. sorry.

my fucks was on Republican hypocrisy, from what I’ve learned in this case, it seems like it was not consentual and why is it called an affair instead of sexual harassment or rape??? fuck him. let him burn and hopefully face consequences.

I’m not at any point defended him, just seething in anger on how Republicans are moving heaven and earth to protect history most notorious pedophiles rapists, and then getting upset at what they call “an affair”.

after hearing more about the case, I’m now also angry at the press for calling it an affair instead of rape or sexual assault