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  • I prefer the default gnome experience to the default kde experience.

    I also prefer the styling of most gnome apps, and actively dislike kde apps styling.

    Gnome is less customizable, but customizable enough for what I want.

    I’m also biased, because I was using Ubuntu since it came out, up until a few years ago 🤷‍♂️




  • Worked at a nursing home, boss was part owner, him and the manager were both great. We got along very well. The other part owner (majority owner?) came around sometimes, pleasant lady, smart, if stubborn.

    After a year or so, suddenly the boss and manager are just gone one day. The part owner lady is now full owner and running the office. I never heard the whole story, but it was some ugly legal/financial thing, power play maybe. I don’t remember.

    Former boss and manager end up at another facility. Some of my co-workers quit over it all, blaming the part owner lady who took over, and went to work for the former boss and manager. Feelings hurt etc.

    Former boss and manager call me to get me to come work for them, not really offering a raise.

    But with everyone else leaving, there was a big need where I was. I was getting trained for a higher position, better pay, better hours, everything. So I stayed. I liked the old boss and manager, but had nothing against the new full owner.

    This worked well for me for awhile, for like a year. But then this lady brings in her nephew as a “maintenance guy”. I immediately don’t like him, but I play nice, always a smile for him.

    Soon he starts doing more and more stuff. Hanging out in the office, forwarding instructions from his aunt, sitting in on meetings. He starts getting real uppity, has an attitude.

    We’re told he’s “getting experience” running the facility.

    Eventually it comes out, the plan was always for him to be the boss, but legally he couldn’t, because he was a state run facility and had been in prison too recently, probation or something, I don’t remember.

    Finally he’s running the place, and things stay to go south real quick. Quality of patient care goes down. Privileges we had are taken away. Security cameras go up. The guy actually got in a fight with family members at one point, screaming at them and wagging his finger in their face.

    The whole work environment got toxic. New hires start sucking up to the manager, a division forms in the staff, people start back biting.

    The new staff doesn’t like that I and others, 3 years senior in a place with high turnover, have a more stable schedule than they do.

    The nepo baby felon boss tells me I can’t have my schedule anymore.

    I talk to the owner about my concerns, not just my schedule, but everything. She tells me that it’s his baby and she’s not going to interfere.

    So I start looking for work. I line up something quick, and give him my two weeks.

    He’s furious, saying I’m going to regret it etc etc. Every day at work that first week is stressful, getting glared at etc.

    Then, honestly, over the weekend something truly came up in my personal life. I needed to take time off, just the last two days of the last week of work I promised him.

    So I called him right then and there on the weekend, because it was the right thing to do. I said “hey listen, I know I said two weeks, but something came up, so I can’t work Thursday or Friday, my last two days. I’m sorry.” No I didn’t ask if it was ok, I just told him, but I did say it nicely.

    He explodes at me, tells me it’s illegal, and I promised him, and I can’t do this etc etc. Then he tells me it’s going to go on my “permanent record”, whatever that’s supposed to mean. And that I needed to sign paperwork saying that I lied and didn’t give my two weeks.

    So I go into work Monday, I do my shift, he’s glowering at me all day. Keeps trying to get me to come to the office and sign that paperwork, I keep being too busy.

    When the time comes for my shift to end, I tell my favorite co-workers goodbye, and warn them I’m not coming back for the rest of my week.

    Then instead of leaving through the front door or employee door, both of which make me walk past the office… I leave out the patio door into the courtyard, and jump the fence to my car, and drive off into the sunset.

    Never talked to that douchebag again. Wish I could’ve seen the look on his face.



  • Things have gotten MUCH better than they ever have been.

    But unfortunately, it is still not as easy as just using an android phone.

    But then again, it’s a hard metric to judge by, because while some things are harder than they should be on Linux, other things are just… Different, than what people are used to (Windows, Mac).

    I use Linux, I use Android, but I still get frustrated when I need to use my wife’s iPhone for pretty much anything, because I’ve never owned one and I never use it. Does that mean iPhone is inherently bad design? Many people would argue no, it’s a good design in most cases. Just different. You’ve gotta learn the different ways of doing what you need to do. Although iPhone definitely has a few design flaws, in my opinion.

    Likewise with Linux. Many modern distros are very user friendly. But no matter how good it is, people will always struggle when starting for the first time, because many things are just plain different. And also there are design holes/flaws.

    You can say the same thing about any modern operating system you aren’t familiar with.

    My sister in law has a MacBook, and every time I need to use it, which is maybe once or twice a year, I struggle. Things aren’t where I expect them to be. Things don’t work the way I expect. Heck, some “standard” keyboard shortcuts are different. Does that mean it’s a bad operating system? No, I just need to put the time and effort in to learn it, if I wanted to use it daily.

    Linux has come a long way, and gets a bad rap. Yes it has a learning curve, and it might be more difficult because of all the different distros, but it’s pretty similar to everything else.


  • Funny how perspective changes things.

    Growing up we had dialup. Around 2009 we got 1.5mbps down, something like 300kbps up. DSL, for 8 people.

    We had that until… 2014? 2016? Then we got 10/1.5, mbps, down/up respectively.

    We had that until 2022 ish, when we got 30/10. And I started self hosting with ease, plenty of bandwidth for myself and my immediate family’s needs.

    Only last year, 2025, did we finally strike gold and get access to fiber. 8000/8000 available, but it’s spendy.

    I’m used to living with significantly less, so I opted for the lowest tier, 300/300.

    I feel like I’m legitimately living in the future right now, so fast.

    I feel for everyone who is stuck with slow Internet. But it’s all perspective. And from my perspective, 20 up is plenty for most things your average person wants to do. More is always better, obviously. But even then, you don’t need gargantuan pipes to self host.

    I will say, these days, anything less than 10/10 is criminal. 20/20 is slow but manageable. 30/30 is more than most normal people realistically need, though obviously, again, more is always better 🤷‍♂️



  • I’ve never installed tiktok. And I got rid of Instagram years before shorts. Additionally, while I enjoy long form YouTube videos from non-brainrot creators, I haven’t used the official app in years, so I avoid shorts there as well.

    I’m not bragging, it’s just relevant to my next statement:

    I too feel like my content consumption isn’t long enough. I think the instant gratification of moving to the next thing minutes after the first is bad for our brains.

    In the last couple of months I have started reading again. Audiobooks mostly, and I know it’s not the same, but it engages my brain while driving for work.

    Additionally, in the last few weeks, I’ve changed our TV habits. We usually watch 2 or 3 hours of TV in the evenings, which is probably too long by some metrics but I’m not ready to cut back yet, personally. What I have done, however, is stop binging.

    Normally we pick two, maybe three at most, shows we want to watch. Then we burn through them, episode after episode. Churning through the seasons until they’re either gone or we’re caught up with it’s production.

    Lately, I’ve done the opposite. We watch one episode of a show we like. Only one. We can watch one of another show if we want. But thus far we haven’t added more shows to the rotation, hard to keep track, might negate benefits, IDK.

    When we’ve watched one episode of one or two shows. We either change gears and stop watching TV, or watch a movie.

    By that time, the time for TV is more of less over.

    Already I’m seeing benefits, small, but I’m happy. The next day, in my idle thoughts, I’ll find myself thinking about what happened in the show, and making connections and predictions that I otherwise wouldn’t have made. I enjoy this.

    Plus we have a backlog of movies, we’re really bad about dedicating time to movies, even though we’d gladly waste that time watching several episodes in a row of a show 🤦‍♂️ So I’m glad to be getting into some good movies too.







  • To be fair, when my wife and I cook, it’s ALWAYS a huge meal. We take whatever recipe we find and double it at a minimum, and then eat it for lunch and dinner for the next few days. But we still prefer it to be a delicious meal.

    One thing to note, a lot of fast food, and restaurants of the faster variety, aren’t cooking food either. It’s the same precooked frozen stuff we’re decrying, just the commercial variety.

    I’m definitely in the camp of “eating out is expensive and unhealthy”. I still do it, socially. And I’ll agree that if you go to a fancy enough restaurant, it probably tips back towards wholesome and healthy, albeit way too expensive.

    It’s funny, I’m not bragging, but, friends of mine will try to reference where things are in my town like “oh it’s across the street from the Wendy’s”, and I’m like, where? And in one case, I think it was a burger king? I didn’t even realize we had one.

    I’ll eat fast food, sure, I do it often enough to know what I like at certain places. But in my own town? 10-15 minutes from home? Nope, pretty much never do it. If I’m that close to home, I’m not wasting my money, I’ll go home and either eat leftovers, make bachelor-chow, or if the timing is right and the wife is home, make a whole meal of something proper.

    It’s funny, we never had a Chick-fil-A by us, closest one was how away. And I LOVE Chick-fil-A. They put one in down the street one year.

    I hit it up several times in that first year, delicious. But now? It’s too close to home. It never crosses my mind, and if it does? I usually wave it away unless the circumstances are just right. But they haven’t been just right in… IDK, years? Probably 3 or 4 years?

    Life is wild.


  • The world is a funny place with lots of varying opinions.

    Your opinion is valid.

    Do you enjoy the taste of food? Because my co-worker takes it to the extreme. Food is just a necessary part of life to him. He eats the same meal for lunch every single day, a Tim Hortons sandwich of some sort. It never changes. When we walk into the gas station where they Tim Hortons is? The staff greet him, and tell him his total so he can pay, because they know without a doubt, that’s what he’s ordering. The guy doesn’t like salt or pepper or ketchup or any type of sauce. His words “too flavorful”.

    My opinion, is that I love the taste of delicious food, and generally dislike cooking. Now, I know how to cook, I help my wife cook often, and sometimes I make the whole meal myself. We make delicious things, a wide variety, lots of flavor and spice and zest.

    But when she’s out of town? I make bachelor-chow. Carb heavy and easy. Ramen, Mac n cheese, freezer pizza, hotdogs, you get the idea. Tastes good enough to me, quick and easy, cheap. I don’t think I’ve ever cooked a proper meal while she’s away.

    BUT, I usually start to feel like crap after a few days of this. And one of the many reasons I miss her when she’s gone, is that she’ll force us to make good food again when she’s back.

    I really do love good food. I’m just supremely cheap and lazy, and won’t do it myself. Maybe if she’s ever gone forever, I would eventually start eating right? Hard to say.

    But everyone’s relationship with food is different. My wife will eat “girl dinner” on occasion. But would much rather spend the time and make a proper meal from scratch. Tastes better.


  • My TV is a 50" I think? 1080p from 2013. It was cheap then, and it’s worth nothing now, on the market. But it works fine.

    The backlight is evenly distributed, which is good, that’s a pet peeve of mine. But otherwise it’s unremarkable.

    Honestly, I’d really like to try those new HDR TVs, a mini LED or OLED or something. But I just can’t justify it. Why? Because the TV I have, works fine 🤷‍♂️

    If it magically died tomorrow, I’d upgrade. But I definitely don’t need 8k. Heck I don’t need 4k. I barely watch any content at 1080, it’s mostly 720 🤷‍♂️