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The Imperfects

Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg
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We’re all imperfect. On this podcast, founder of The Resilience Project Hugh van Cuylenburg, his good friend Ryan Shelton, and only one of their brothers, Josh van Cuylenburg, talks to a variety of interesting people who vulnerably share their own struggles and imperfections, or expertly pass on their wisdom on the subject of imperfection. Whether it’s in The Vulnerabilitea House, The Academy of Imperfection, or with our very own psychologist, Dr Emily, The Imperfects are here to find some valuable takeaways we can all apply to our own imperfect lives.

  1. A little more...Dr Emily! Inner Critic! Dr Emily! Happiness!

    2 DAYS AGO · BONUS • SUBSCRIBERS ONLY

    A little more...Dr Emily! Inner Critic! Dr Emily! Happiness!

    oh my god oh my god oh my god. it’s finally happening. our wildest dreams are coming true. Dr Emily has entered the *A Little More Imperfects* studio. We repeat, DR EMILY HAS ENTERED THE A LITTLE MORE IMPERFECTS STUDIO. If that doesn’t get you to listen, I don’t know what will. Oh, maybe this; Dr Em takes us through reflection activity AFTER reading out one of YOUR reflections from the reflection pond. Talk about reflection inception. Or maybe this; Josh gives us a juicy exclusive into what he’s been doing in therapy. what a time to be alive (and an ALMI subscriber). 🩷Other A Little More Imperfects episodes mentioned in this episode - ALMI: Tiramisusan, or Tiramisu For Short - http://bit.ly/4pUUHCf - ALMI: The first ‘A Little More Imperfect’ where we peek inside Hugh’s imperfect brain - http://bit.ly/4pXum6n - ALMI: Hugh Pretty Much Definitely Has ADHD - http://bit.ly/3KyJNBT 🫖Other imperfects episodes mentioned in this episode - Dr Emily - Who Is Your Inner Critic & Why Is It There? - http://bit.ly/4gT9OrE - James van Cuylenburg - Love Your Wonky Bricks - http://bit.ly/4n9SEaZ - Hugh’s ADHD…brief - http://bit.ly/4hgkvVD - What’s Your ATAR? - http://bit.ly/46P0Rek 📺 Things to watch - Good Will Hunting - http://bit.ly/4nYFPkm - The Rehearsal - http://bit.ly/4mOjhle - Rick Hanson - Velcro for the Bad, Teflon for the Good - http://bit.ly/4mWgkiN 💻Things to do - Rick Hanson - Positive Neuroplasticity Training - http://bit.ly/4pWSbvc - Sign up to the *my imperfect email* newsletter - http://bit.ly/45NyQDy

    56 min
  2. Dr Emily - Goals For Your Goals

    3 DAYS AGO

    Dr Emily - Goals For Your Goals

    Whether you’re a ‘new year new me’ aficionado, a 5-year planner, or get sweaty at the thought of setting goals, this episode is for you. 🎟️ Our live show Together Again is on sale now! Tickets here - https://bit.ly/4mEK9Ep Joined by our resident psychologist Dr Emily Musgrove, we’re unpacking goal setting, which at its core, is the intention to change our behaviour. In this episode, Hugh, Ryan and Josh, with the help of Dr Em, talk through why goals may seem intimidating, and how to reconcile the idea that there is no growth when you are not changing. Leading us into a very lovely introduction of a strengths-based approach to change, Dr Em explains SMART goals using Hugh’s bedtime as a real-life example. And for those with a particularly strong inner critic (or rocky relationship with goals), Dr Em gently guides Hugh, Ryan and, especially Josh, through the blessing of allowing ourselves some slack, leading from the feet up and engaging in committed action. AND, we learn about temptation bundling and Hugh’s taste in music (not as dirty as it sounds). Dr Em, you’re in all of our inner cheer squads To watch this full video on YouTube, follow this link: https://youtu.be/bUOUs0UKg_w  🫖 Other Imperfects episodes mentioned in this episode Chrissie Swan - Honesty - http://bit.ly/3IQd6zq Getting Vulny - Josh’s Big Announcement - http://bit.ly/4h5RI5V Dr Emily - The Meaning of Mid-Life - http://bit.ly/3IZGQtE Dr Emily - What Are Your Values? - http://bit.ly/4mZwvvI Kemi Nekvapil - A Compass for When You’re Lost - http://bit.ly/4q2UFIw Maria Ruberto - Sleep Your Way To Your Top - http://bit.ly/470shxZ Josh van Cuylenburg - Midlife Crisis Averted - http://bit.ly/4mRxLkt 📖 Things to read Unstuck by Dr Emily Musgrove - http://bit.ly/4o8JFay Rick Hanson, The Inner Caring Committee - http://bit.ly/4h7USGq Katy Milkman, Fresh Start Effect - http://bit.ly/3J2sKrq 🎧Things to listen to River Deep Mountain High by Celine Dion - http://bit.ly/48Wuk8J 💻Things to do VIA Character Strength Ranker - http://bit.ly/4h2KYFJ 🩷To host your own Vulnerabilitea House, (with the new cards!) purchase here - http://bit.ly/4lyuuWz 🩵To purchase our journal (or your novel) My Imperfect Life, click here - http://bit.ly/4lyuuWz 💌To subscribe to our newsletter, my imperfect email, click here - http://bit.ly/45NyQDy 🩵To join our patreon community, A Little More Imperfects, follow this link - http://bit.ly/4mqunxu 🩷 AND you can subscribe to A Little More Imperfects through Apple Podcasts too, here - http://bit.ly/4mq5BO5 The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

    1h 16m
  3. Kemi Nekvapil - A Compass for When You're Lost

    5 OCT

    Kemi Nekvapil - A Compass for When You're Lost

    If you’re not navigating your life through your values, what are you using? 🎟️ Our live show Together Again is on sale now! Tickets here - https://bit.ly/4mEK9Ep Our lord and saviour is back (in a secular, informal way). Kemi Nekvapil is back in the Academy of Imperfection to talk all things values: what they are, how we choose them, and how you add croissant as one of yours. Extending the conversation of our previous episode on values with Dr Em, Kemi talks with the guys about how their current personal values are working in their life. Introducing terms such as val-rules, aspirational values and umbrella values, Kemi walks them through the difference between manipulation and modelling, and why the hard work starts AFTER we’ve chosen our values. In a peak behind the metaphorical (and literal, hi Producer Bridge) curtain, we discuss what went down in our company values session with Kemi, and how these values come into play in a day-in-the-life of The Imperfects production team. If you’d like to watch this full episode on YouTube, follow this link - https://youtu.be/TV-GL3dgtjg 🫖Other Imperfects episodes mentioned in this episode Dr Emily - What Are Your Values? - http://bit.ly/4nWgRCf Hugh’s Open Letter to Parents of Neurodivergent Parents - http://bit.ly/4gVbQYu Kemi Nekvapil - How to Live a Life Without Apology - http://bit.ly/4q3NLCW Kemi Nekvapil - The Secret of Your Success - http://bit.ly/473cJuv 📖Things to read Grounded Success, by Kemi Nekvapil - http://bit.ly/4mOWw0J Power, by Kemi Nekvapil - http://bit.ly/4nTsZnn The Gift of Asking, by Kemi Nekvapil - http://bit.ly/4nvKgU8 Dare to Lead, by Brene Brown - http://bit.ly/46GMMzC 💻Things to check out Kemi’s Website - https://www.keminekvapil.com 🩷To host your own Vulnerabilitea House, (with the new cards!) purchase here - http://bit.ly/4lyuuWz 🩵To purchase our journal (or your novel) My Imperfect Life, click here - http://bit.ly/4lyuuWz 💌To subscribe to our newsletter, my imperfect email, click here - http://bit.ly/45NyQDy 🩵To join our patreon community, A Little More Imperfects, follow this link - http://bit.ly/4mqunxu 🩷 AND you can subscribe to A Little More Imperfects through Apple Podcasts too, here - http://bit.ly/4mq5BO5 The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

    1h 16m
  4. A little more...and all that Jazz

    3 OCT · BONUS • SUBSCRIBERS ONLY

    A little more...and all that Jazz

    You like jazz? We didn’t plan to talk about it, but here with are, instructions and convenient costumes included. If we have time in and around the jazz talk, we’ll give an update on Hugh’s ghost journey. An exciting announcement, Ryan is dabbling in the visual arts and putting on his very own exhibition! If you’re in Melbourne, and feeling like being inundated with Ryan’s sense of humour in a physical space, go and check it out (and it’s free, unlike this episode). Ryan (gently) yanks a reflection out of the pond, Hugh ad-libs an interlude (get it, ad-libs), and we discuss whether ghosts come through portals or portholes. Thanks Hugh, Love you all 🫖Other Imperfects episodes mentioned in this episode - Karissa Lewis - We’re Not Better Off Without You - http://bit.ly/4pOjo37 - Lauren Zonfrillo - Grief: The Shittest Greatest Gift - http://bit.ly/3KpXTWe - Gina Chick - Don’t Fight Life - http://bit.ly/4n0B9d7 🎟️Fun activities to do - Visit Ryan’s Exhibition ‘All This Work, Just For This’ - http://bit.ly/487PDE1 💻Things to check out - Standby Support - [https://standbysupport.com.au](https://standbysupport.com.au/) 💌Things to subscribe to / buy - My Imperfect Email - http://bit.ly/45NyQDy - My Imperfect Life: A Novel Journal - https://bit.ly/3Cx4tGP 🚨If you, or someone you know, is thinking about suicide, please call 000 in an emergency, or contact Lifeline on 13 11 14.

    37 min
  5. Josh van Cuylenburg - Midlife Crisis Averted

    2 OCT · BONUS

    Josh van Cuylenburg - Midlife Crisis Averted

    The mid-life update we've all been waiting for.  🎟️ Our live show Together Again is on sale now! Tickets here - https://bit.ly/4mEK9Ep In the final instillation of the Vulnerabilitea Volume 2 Cards Announcement Week, where Ryan, Hugh and Josh have each answered one of the 52 brand-spanking-new-vulnerable-questions, it’s Josh’s turn.  Answering the question, “what moment from your life are you grateful for, that profoundly changed you?” Josh reflects on the recording of the episode; Dr Emily – The Meaning of Mid Life, where he vulnerably disclosed that he was really struggling with finding meaning in the second half of his life. Sparked from this moment of authentic connection, Josh shares with Hugh and Ryan how he was able to find compassion for himself and the joy of adopting a beginner’s mindset. Josh, we love it when good things happen to great people. And we love you!This can be a stand-alone episode, however Ryan and Hugh’s have been absolute corkers (and we don’t say corker lightly) and you can listen to them here https://bit.ly/3VBvcrH and here http://bit.ly/4nNXNWK. If you’d like to watch this episode on YouTube, follow this link - https://youtu.be/MrL2No3YiLQ 🫖Other Imperfects episodes mentioned in this episode Ryan Shelton - The Friend I Want To Be - https://bit.ly/3VBvcrH Hugh van Cuylenburg - This Is Burnout - http://bit.ly/4nNXNWK Dr Emily - The Meaning of Mid Life - https://bit.ly/4nNzmIP Maria Ruberto - Advancing Despite Adversity - https://bit.ly/3Kr9KTP Maria Ruberto - Sleep Your Way To Your Top - https://bit.ly/4nHTc8s Dr Emily - Other People Matter - https://bit.ly/46SBaL0 Rick Davies - Living with OCD - https://bit.ly/4ndG2Ae 📖 Things to read Hitch-22, by Christopher Hitchens - https://bit.ly/4gC4yZk 📺 Things to watch Homer Simpson’s Spice Rack - https://bit.ly/46PCzlD 🩷To host your own Vulnerabilitea House, (with the new cards!) purchase here - http://bit.ly/4lyuuWz 🩵To purchase our journal (or your novel) My Imperfect Life, click here - http://bit.ly/4lyuuWz 💌To subscribe to our newsletter, my imperfect email, click here - http://bit.ly/45NyQDy 🩵To join our patreon community, A Little More Imperfects, follow this link - http://bit.ly/4mqunxu 🩷 AND you can subscribe to A Little More Imperfects through Apple Podcasts too, here - http://bit.ly/4mq5BO5 The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.   See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

    23 min
  6. Hugh van Cuylenburg - This Is Burnout

    30 SEPT · BONUS

    Hugh van Cuylenburg - This Is Burnout

    Hugh’s turn! 🎟️ Our live show Together Again is on sale now! Tickets here - https://bit.ly/4mEK9Ep This week, to celebrate the launch of our BRAND NEW Vulnerabilitea House Cards (with 52 brand-new life changing questions), Ryan, Hugh and Josh will each be answering a VII question on an episode this week. Ryan kicked us off on Monday, and you can listen to that episode here (it’s a goody) - https://bit.ly/3VBvcrH In this episode, Hugh answers the question “When was a time when you genuinely needed help? Were you able to ask for it?” In an answer which provides a little more context to Ryan’s episode (an unplanned narrative arc), Hugh is vulnerable about the intense burnout he has been experiencing, and his fantasies for a guilt free period of time where he can just lie down for a bit. Unpacking the symptoms of burnout, Hugh explains to Ryan and Josh the heaviness of the past year, how it has been impacting his mental health, and why it feels like everything is too much. Hugh, thanks for calling the press conference. We love you so much. If you want to watch this full episode on YouTube, click here - https://youtu.be/8K0eKoIfR-U 🫖 Other Imperfects episodes mentioned in this episode Ryan Shelton - The Friend I Want To Be - https://bit.ly/3VBvcrH Another Imperfect Chat About Men - http://bit.ly/4gC1aO6 🩷To host your own Vulnerabilitea House, (with the new cards!) purchase here - http://bit.ly/4lyuuWz 🩵To purchase our journal (or your novel) My Imperfect Life, click here - http://bit.ly/4lyuuWz 💌To subscribe to our newsletter, my imperfect email, click here - http://bit.ly/45NyQDy 🩵To join our patreon community, A Little More Imperfects, follow this link - http://bit.ly/4mqunxu 🩷 AND you can subscribe to A Little More Imperfects through Apple Podcasts too, here - http://bit.ly/4mq5BO5 The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

    31 min
  7. Ryan Shelton - The Friend I Want To Be

    28 SEPT · BONUS

    Ryan Shelton - The Friend I Want To Be

    It’s a different sort of episode(s) this week. 🎟️ Our live show Together Again is on sale now! Tickets here - https://bit.ly/4mEK9Ep Because, drum roll please*,* we have a BRAND-NEW deck of Vulnerabilitea House Cards, with 52 brand-new, life-changing questions. That’s right baby, Volume II is available for purchase. Now. This week, we are releasing three whole episodes (lucky you). Each episode will feature either Ryan, Hugh or Josh in the spotlight as they answer one of our new Vulernabilitea House questions. In this episode, Ryan answers the question, “do you have any regrets about the way you have treated others?” and talks about his relationship with Hugh, and why he has been feeling guilty. See you Wednesday! If you want to watch this full episode on YouTube (and see the new Tequila-Sunrise Card Deck), follow this link - https://youtu.be/PDsY2kaA4uU 🫖 Other Imperfects episodes mentioned in this episode Dr Emily - Truth vs Harmony - http://bit.ly/4pCtl3D Hamish McLachlan - A World Turned Upside Down - http://bit.ly/42NYPd9 🩷To host your own Vulnerabilitea House, (with the new cards!) purchase here - http://bit.ly/4lyuuWz 🩵To purchase our journal (or your novel) My Imperfect Life, click here - http://bit.ly/4lyuuWz 💌To subscribe to our newsletter, my imperfect email, click here - http://bit.ly/45NyQDy 🩵To join our patreon community, A Little More Imperfects, follow this link - http://bit.ly/4mqunxu 🩷 AND you can subscribe to A Little More Imperfects through Apple Podcasts too, here - http://bit.ly/4mq5BO5 The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

    31 min
  8. Mitch Brown - AFL’s First Openly Bisexual Man

    21 SEPT

    Mitch Brown - AFL’s First Openly Bisexual Man

    This moment is bigger than Mitch Brown. 💌 subscribe to our newsletter, my imperfect email, here - http://bit.ly/45NyQDy. Tie up your laces and pull up your socks, this story is ones for the ages. As the first male AFL player in the sport’s 129 year history to come out as bisexual, Mitch, and the public’s reaction to his story, epitomises the importance of visibility, role models and the creation of safe and inclusive environments. Joining us in the studio, Mitch takes us back to the beginning, vulnerably telling Hugh, Ryan and Josh about the hyper-masculine environments which formed (and suppressed) his identity from a young age. Talking through his newfound imposter syndrome, past-mistakes, and journey to finding his true, authentic self, Mitch emphasizes the critical importance of empathy. Confiding with the guys about how monumental, overwhelming and joyful the past few weeks have been, Mitch also acknowledges the deep grief of people in his life who felt like they had let him down. Mitch, you are making the world a better place. We love you (so much). If you’d like to watch this full video on YouTube, follow this link: https://youtu.be/cLHU4CJkqww This episode discusses an experience of sexual assault, if this is something you're not ready to hear right now, we suggest you skip this one and come back when you are ready.  🎧Things to listen to: The Daily Aus - Part 1: The AFL’s first openly bisexual player - http://bit.ly/4nHyQfJ The Daily Aus - Part 2: The AFL’s first openly bisexual player - http://bit.ly/3VpMdVM 🚨If you, or someone you know, is struggling, these are a few great resources QLife - provides anonymous and free LGBTI peer support and referral for people over 18 wanting to talk about sexuality, identity, gender, bodies, feelings or relationships. 1800 184 527, www.qlife.org.au Minus 18 - Through a preventative model of mental health support, Minus 18 tackle social isolation by creating fun-filled spaces where LGBTQIA+ people under 18 feel they belong and are celebrated www.minus18.org.au 1800 RESPECT - If you, or someone you know needs support after after experiencing a sexual assault, please call the national 24-hour sexual assault, family and domestic violence counselling line 1800 RESPECT on 1800 732 732. Lifeline - 13 11 14, www.lifeline.org.au 🩷To host your own Vulnerabilitea House, purchase the Vulnerabilitea House Cards here - http://bit.ly/4lyuuWz 🩵To purchase our journal (or your novel) My Imperfect Life, click here - http://bit.ly/4lyuuWz 🩵To join our patreon community, A Little More Imperfects, follow this link - http://bit.ly/4mqunxu 🩷 AND you can subscribe to A Little More Imperfects through Apple Podcasts too, here - http://bit.ly/4mq5BO5 The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.   See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

    1h 17m
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We’re all imperfect. On this podcast, founder of The Resilience Project Hugh van Cuylenburg, his good friend Ryan Shelton, and only one of their brothers, Josh van Cuylenburg, talks to a variety of interesting people who vulnerably share their own struggles and imperfections, or expertly pass on their wisdom on the subject of imperfection. Whether it’s in The Vulnerabilitea House, The Academy of Imperfection, or with our very own psychologist, Dr Emily, The Imperfects are here to find some valuable takeaways we can all apply to our own imperfect lives.

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  • Creator
    Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg
  • Years Active
    2019 - 2025
  • Episodes
    272
  • Rating
    Explicit
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    © 2025 Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg
  • Show Website
    The Imperfects
  • Provider
    The Imperfects Podcast Pty Ltd

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