Dads

Cross posted from: https://lemmy.world/post/40114458

Yes, it is August. Yes, I know. I don’t make the rules.

How's parenthood treating you? What's frustrating you at the moment? What little wins and successes have you had recently?

Personally my family and I have all taken turns this December to get ill and it was my turn on Christmas eve and beyond. Still feel a tiny bit rough today and it was a struggle on Christmas day/boxing day but it all turned out nicely and we seem to be getting over it now.

Up to much this week?

"....I'm hungry"

Hi Dads,

I hope you all have a great day!

For me I think it would to have a full enough English breakfast with the family, a mug of proper coffee, where I don't have to make any of it.

First born nipper of seven weeks is well for which I count my blessings. Fresh challenges for daddy though: I don't have the emotional and physical comfort from my girlfriend that I had become accustomed to. Obviously, she is looking after a baby for everything she's worth, with me right behind her. We're breastfeeding. Circumstances conspired for me to get away for a night out a week ago - for the first time - with my best friend and it was wonderful. I was a lot less stressed afterwards and had a lot more to give the next day. But it also reminded me of the time before we had our baby; fun, sex, freedom, all that jazz. We managed to have some rushed sexy time a few weeks ago (thanks grandpa), a couple of brief cuddles and a couple of limited heart-to-heart chats but really I feel like I'm basically just a cook, potwash, caretaker and babysitter. Whilst being hyper-focussed our baby, she also tries her best not to overload me, which I'm grateful for. But I'm not getting much love, care, understanding or respect from anywhere at the moment. Nice moments with my daughter just about keeps me in the game tbh. Do any of you recongnise this? Can you offer any light at the end of the tunnel, recommend what to do? I'm feeling very strapped in. Thanks

Keen to hear any novel ideas (or just the humdrum of your weekend).

I was cuddling with my 20 month year old daughter, who's vocabulary is limited to just "dad" and "hot", on our bed the other evening watching Snail on the Whale, when all of a sudden, after 10 minutes of complete silence, in her cute little voice she randomly babbles: "die bitch". My poker face skills were seriously put to the test.

This is something I've always struggled with and I think it's put my daughter in a spot where she's very reluctant to do anything by herself.

How has your week been? How are the kids? What's going on and what have you got planned?

Which makes me wonder. Dad's of Lemmy...what's the worst advice you've ever received about parenting?

My eldest is screaming because she didn't get as many eggs as she thought she would. Thanks Bluey.

My 2yo has one night with kind of a blue hour every other week, where he wakes up in the night and is just completely awake for 1-2,5 hours. Wanting to read books, maybe snack a bit.

Just gone 2 weeks past the due date for our first baby...

Good things bad things. Feel free to vent!

Moanings fellow Dad's. Hows life?

Just spent £18 (yes EIGHTEEN) to take my Son to the softplay for two hours of off-peak play.

Example: I'm awful when it comes to the kids waking up throughout the night. It's not so much that I don't deal with it well, cause I do, but more that the prospect of it causing significant anxiety in me.

Well done on making the weekend. I guarantee that in 3-4 hours, when you're on your 30th 'Daddy can I?' if the day you'll be wishing you were at work.

Plans? What are you getting the woman who's delivered you to the pinnacle of human existence: Fatherhood?

I loath it, but alas, it is for the children.

I have my first child due very soon. It's already been an internal oddysey for me during pregnancy and I'm aware that that's just the beginning of it. But you lot are on the other side of the birth, so:

I'm not entirely sure what this post is for, I guess I'm just looking for some advice, maybe a little understanding?

You made it. Now for the real work to begin.

One of the first things I noticed when we embarked on this great adventure was just how tailed to Mum everything seemed to be.

I guess I just wanted to say that today was a good day.

Having a rough morning fellas. The lil'one has been up since 6 and to be frank, won't stop. The eldest is finally at school but even that was a nightmare.

Low key one of the most stressful things I've ever done. And we're taking the easy way out and having a softplay party.

Won't lie. The last few weeks have been rough. My eldest is pushing boundaries at an alarming rate, and the youngest still hasn't slept through the night.

The first time in my near-six year spell as a parent I finally had the fabled 'supermarket meltdown'.

My mother is having the kids, both of them.

My eldest (5) recently started showing an interest in litter picking. So we grabbed her a stick and she started using it on the way home from school (with an adults supervision).

The eldest decided she didn't actually like the fireworks, so she cried for twenty minutes whilst we left....only to then tell us she didn't want to leave when we finally got back to the car.

What did you find harder, or perhaps 'a bigger shock to the system'. Going from zero kids to one, or going from one to two, two to three.

We all stumble. We don't always have someone to talk to about it, so there's this thread. What went wrong and can you ever forgive yourself? Probably not, if you're like me. No judgment.

Had an absolutely awful night. Our 19 month old has still never slept through, and he's got a cold...and the clocks have gone back.

Posting this separate after my comment became so long…

Won't lie. This week has been a challenge. Work has, well been horrific. And then I come home and on top of all the other things that a working parent has to put up with, my eldest has seemingly decided to make it her personal mission to make my life a living hell.