Tag Archives: Help

Asininity & Advice.

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It drives me nuts when people that are not in a position they want to be in (myself included) give advice. An example is two people with no money giving advice to each other about how to accumulate money. You don’t have any money. Ergo it’s foolish to give each other tips on how to get it. If one of you figured it out, one would have money, and better advice for the non wealthy individual.

Allowing that person to potentially follow that advice of the money accumulator. It just doesn’t work the same when both people are in the same position. I suppose this is why wealthy people always advocate for having mentors. These are individuals who have gone through the fire. Made the mistakes.

Fixed the mistakes, and prospered afterwards. They can bring value to the have-nots. Two people in the same position cannot  elevate each other as efficiently and effectively as possible as far as seeing their own blind spots. 

The Perceptive Palpability Plague.

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Putting yourself on punishment for lacking the discipline needed to get things done, is a better way to force productivity and progress. The issue with things like mentorship is the perceptive disconnect between where they were, and where you are. Regardless of their input, you’re still the one responsible for doing something about your current position in life. 

Another way of thinking about this is the fact that you have a different temperament. Your risk tolerance differs significantly from the mentor. You have different goals and expectations. This all being the case, there is only but so much you can get out having mentors, which are great as long as you know how to parlay the key ideas into a more effective existence.

Existential Immunity.

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Any unfamiliarity you experience in life comes from the removal of comfort—whether it’s a new job, environment, or adopting new habits. As time progresses you become accustomed to thinking and doing things—never considering whether your behaviors are in line with your desired growth or goals. A biological example would be something like our immune system.

When you’re challenged through adversity, antigens (setbacks, failures etc.) begin attacking your wellbeing.

Because of this attack, antibodies (active solutions) will become necessary to overcome the resistance. If your immune system is weak by way of distractions, excuses, or quitting-you’ll experience physical, emotional or psychological damage. If your body learns to produce antibodies you’ll reach a state of homeostasis. This allows you to overcome setbacks, while continually evolving over time. 

You’re spoiled and you know it. Help someone else.

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When you help someone else, or another person is dependent upon you, there is no self absorption. You can’t help and be helped simultaneously. Especially when you are helping those with less. Sometimes we think our problems are so much bigger than what they actually are. Well there are so many people out there that would do anything to be in your position right now, this very second.

Meanwhile you’re so busy complaining about how difficult or irritating your job is, or your partner has become. Imagine not having any of what you have now. Imagine having to ask for a few dollars just to buy a bottle of water, or a sandwich because that’s all you have left, is the ability to only ask. Be grateful for every single thing you have. Be appreciative of the difficulties, because at one point you may have had less than what you have now.

Be glad you actually have sustainable problems to solve and resources to help you achieve a better life. If you’ve forgotten what it’s like to be humble, give a helping hand to someone and stop complaining.

Who saves Fed Officials?

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I haven’t got much to say today. I browsed over a few statistics about the average savings rate. Thought I’d go with a post on that, but it feels too forced at the moment. Money is a tool. We may go into a recession between now and March of 2024.

Interest rates are too high. Blah Blah Blah. It’s all just repetitive at this point. Sometimes the world feels like it’s moving in slow motion, when you’re able to have a better understanding of what is happening, and how it’s happening. When it comes to fiscal and monetary policy, as well as consumer behavior, we’re all watching the plane go down, but nobody wants to call the paramedics.

Let’s keep working on ourselves.

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Pretending you’re okay is not okay. Just accept that there are some issues you need to address, and implement a solution immediately. There is no reason to drag shit out and feel sorry for yourself. Just get up off of the floor and make yourself useful. Somebody somewhere needs and wants you to be okay.

There is nothing wrong with getting help or asking for help. Just don’t stay stuck. Don’t stop believing. Don’t stop contributing to society in whatever way is beneficial to your wellbeing.

Help yourself.

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Don’t let people guilt you into thinking that taking care of your needs first, is wrong. Your ability or willingness to help another person, is predicated on the fact that you have to help yourself first, to have enough energy, effort, and resources to help those around you. Like an underdeveloped adult raising a child that grows up to become underdeveloped by way of their parent.

Help me!

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You can’t save anybody else that doesn’t want to save themselves. You can’t help anybody else that doesn’t want to help themselves. Before I keep going, take the cape off, and save yourself. If others like and or need what you’re doing they’ll act accordingly. Just keep saving you.

God made dirt. Dirt don’t hurt….(You know the rest).

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Although I can’t stand it, the issues that occur in life, allow for you to appreciate the incoming blessings even more. Even for those who always remain cheerful, getting over a hurdle is still a major relief, and a self-esteem booster. A little adversity can help recalibrate your mood.

Suppressing the real reality.

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There will always be a struggle of some sort. It could be the struggle of not having an ample amount of time with family. It could be the inability to be in more than one place at a time. There are internal and external struggles on a daily basis. Some of these struggles could be classified as normal.

Than of course there are the deeper psychological struggles that we don’t like to bring up often, if at all. These are the struggles only we ourselves face quietly. Some days they come out in our moments of frustration. Most of the time we suppress them so deeply, it’s as if they don’t actually exist. However these internal struggles are the driving forces of a lot of the external realities we inhabit, or call life.

These psychological struggles at inception were seen as a normal thing to us. Decades later, you may question the morality of where you are, or where you’re trying to go. Our actions are both helping someone, and simultaneously hurting another. Processing this is not a simple task. Must you give up everything you worked for, in order to shift the hurt, or do you, suppress it, and keep going?

4). Avoiding Lifestyle Creep.

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According to investopedia:

By 

JULIA KAGAN

Updated November 29, 2020

Reviewed by 

ROGER WOHLNER

What Is Lifestyle Creep? 

Lifestyle creep occurs when an individual’s standard of living improves as their discretionary income rises and former luxuries become new necessities. The rise in discretionary income can happen either through an increase in income or decrease in costs.

A hallmark of lifestyle creep is a change in thinking and behavior that sees spending on nonessential items as a right rather than a choice. This can be seen in the spending decision attitude of “you deserve it,” rather than thinking of the opportunities that saving money would provide. A way to fight lifestyle creep is by budgeting and discerning wants from needs when making purchases.

Another way to build wealth, is being aware of lifestyle creep. Simply put, any extra money you receive, becomes a reason for you, to spend extra, which increases your expenses. The real/obvious trick is increasing your savings rate, or rate of investing when your income increases. There’s probably not really a need to move to a bigger house, or to buy that truck. Just because your wallet got fatter, doesn’t mean you should or that your expenses should.

The problem seems to be, people’s ability to delay short term gratification. “You only live once” mentality will keep most people broke. Socking away a few hundred bucks a month, for decades, while collecting interest adjusted for inflation, can really be the difference between hamburger helper and the ZD Abacus Dinner, at Bourbon & Bones Chophouse in Scottsdale (you might need a loan to eat here).

Wait, I’m actually me?

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Some days I find it fascinating that we’re human. We get to make our own decisions. We can pick and choose what we want to do, and who we want to be. Yes the universe is ultimately in control, but we do have some will to guide us through. For some of us this journey is awful.

Luckily we’re able to start over from wherever we are to make things much better than they previously were. Of course there could be luck involved, and helping hands of others, but still it’s great deal to be alive and something we should all continue to take advantage of.

It’s go time.

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We really are out here to fend for ourselves, and the sooner we realize that, the better we can be at minding our business and getting shit done. There is no time to chill. There is no excuse for not becoming more than we currently are. Nothing is handed to the man who’s willing to stick his hand out.

Passion. Purpose. Perspective.

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I’ve linked my podcast to the WordPress website. It’s funny, I started the podcast a few years ago by reading aloud a few of these blog posts from the earlier days of 2012 when I started writing a little more consistently. I quickly found out how boring that was to me. I finally decided I will keep doing what I like. This resulted in me going on and on about fitness, nutrition, and as of late finance.

Why start podcasting now? Because there are moments in time when I have so many thoughts and ideas, but nobody willing to listen with as much enthusiasm. I either talk until I’m blue in the face about things I find interesting, or I’m completely mute and deep in thought. Writing this blog allows me to organize the quite thoughts. Recording my podcast allows me to fully and openly express my opinions and ignorance on various subjects I love, while learning to further understand what I’m “teaching”.

If you like podcasts about exercise, eating a little healthier, finance, and overall self-improvement, type Passion Purpose Perspective into Google and listen for yourself. Here’s the Podcast . By no means is it polished or perfect. However it is me and I find it beneficial to release some of my inner energy and curiosity. Of course the goal is to educate and create curiosity within others, while trying to become a better learner and communicator. So far, the podcast has been streamed in 25 states domestically, and 13 countries globally.

Our audience is very concentrated, but growing weekly. Although I’d like to grow a little more, I do appreciate our concentrated audience. As we begin season 3, I hope to improve upon the foundation that has already been laid. Thanks for reading, and if you’re a fan of the podcast, thanks for listening. More content is on the way.

Hack your day.

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People will often complain that there is not enough time in the day. They will regret not accomplishing certain goals throughout the year. Others can’t figure out how the time flies by so quickly. Systems. You are either unaware that systems do and must exist, or you have a flawed system in place.

You need to organize your activities based on what you want to happen in the long run, while measuring success in shorter durations to be cognizant of actual progress being made. In layman’s terms, have a schedule or routine that you follow consistently no matter what. Each day that you wake up is a chance for you to create momentum towards your desired outcome. We all have the same 24 hours. You can divide them up however you like.

The key to more productivity seems to be, minimizing leisure, and maximizing productivity or output. The longer you operate using this “equation” or method, the more output you’ll get, up to a certain level. After a while you will experience burnout, regression to the mean, or the law of diminishing returns. Therefore you’ll need to rest and recover until fully recouped, and repeat the process with adjustments that match the direction you need to go to keep yielding desired results. It’s an overly stated way to say work systematically until you’re tired. Rest until you’re energized and work again until tired.

Rinse, repeat. One of the most effective things I’ve done, is wake up a few hours earlier at the same time every single day. This forced me to look at what needed to be done in order for me to be satisfied with my day. It starts before any official work. Basically self-work or self-improvement first thing in the morning, or at night if you work night shift. Now it’s on you to figure out what you’re goals are.

Next is the steps that need to be completed. Find the tools and resources you need. Map out time each and every day to work on those steps without missing a beat. The actions will compound over time. Wake up earlier or go to sleep later and get things done.

There are details involved but everyone’s circumstances are different. Some people will continue to make excuses, but when you push yourself, you’ll be amazed by how many things you can get done. Another process is deep concentration on one or two major goals for an extended period of time until you reach your desired outcome. Figure out what works for you. It really is simple, but the excuses people make, results in difficulty completing your assignments.

Don’t over complicate it. Just wake up and put the work in before and after your non-negotiable activities.

Yeah I said it…

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Not everybody that has social media accounts is outgoing. Not all of us are into posting selfies and showing off the latest fashion. We are not all the life of the party. We are not all conversation starters. No not all of us with access to social media care about your opinion of what we post and how we post it. Some of us need a break from this circus. Some of us need to refuel in order to continue trying to find our own lane of self-love and self-worth on the world’s fastest active highway (the internet). Not all of us want to share every microscopical nuance, detail, or crevice of our complete being. Some of us need a minute to think things through. Some of us are overly stimulated by superficial ideas of a fantasy that seems to be reality whenever we pick up these mindless devices. Not all of us want to complain about politics that have very little to do with taking care of ourselves and loved ones. Not all of us want to be lit 24 hours a day. Some of us need meaning. Some of us have perspective. Some of us desire a simpler way of doing while managing complex thought patterns. We are not all exactly alike. We do not all laugh at the same things. But one thing we all are is human, if that makes any fucking sense at all. In conclusion, I still have a 9 mile race to complete in about 20 days and it annoys me to only speak on that part of the journey. So yeah, I’m not good at being an airhead. But I am good at being an asshole. More accurate I’m good at being myself. Being who I am is okay. Being who you are is okay. You don’t need acceptance from an outside source. Just live your truth, and be creative, be thoughtful, be decisive, and be inspiring. Not necessarily for others. Mainly for self. But of course if it helps someone get through their day, you done more than enough with your precious time.

#leongenesis #yourmomsfavoritepersonaltrainer #letsgetit #letswork #alwaysworking

Trauma, Suffering, and Being Hurt.

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We’ve all been hurt. We have all suffered from some sort of traumatic experience. It doesn’t matter how big or small the experience was. When it happened and the pain hit you, you knew you would never be the same. What people like to tell you is “you’ll be okay”.

They say things like “let it go”. “In 5 years it won’t matter, life will be better and you’ll forget”. What people fail to tell you, is that you’ll begin to wrap your world around this trauma you have suffered from. They never tell you that it won’t go away, and that some days you’ll even have nightmares about reliving it. You’ll even dream about things being better, only to wake up to the same traumatic realizations.

They don’t tell you how much it hurts. They don’t tell you what to do when you’re at a gathering and all of a sudden that traumatic experience burst back into your mind. Now you’ve fallen down the rabbit hole of anxiety, wanting a way out, and feeling like you’re not good enough. They never tell you how to become worthy of self love again. They just keep saying “accept it, and know your worth”.

What if my worth it tainted by my traumatic experience? Who will understand, and how can they understand, if they are not me and have never gone through such things, but are hired to help me “get over it” or “let it go”? What does that even mean? Get over what? The pain, and suffering, the unfulfilled promises.

Getting over the flashbacks. How is that truly and undeniably possible all on my own? So we’re often scarred for life. Wondering when we’ll ever feel normal again. Unfortunately I wrote this, without thinking of how I too was able to let things go.

Oh wait….I’m still not over it.

This is the reality. You end up just living with the bullshit experience until it has less power over you. Just remember to be prepared for it to creep back up on you from time to time, until you cycle through the part where you can live with it again and back to trauma and living again and again and again.

The End.

Trauma, Suffering, and Being Hurt.

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We’ve all been hurt. We have all suffered from some sort of traumatic experience. It doesn’t matter how big or small the experience was. When it happened and the pain hit you, you knew you would never be the same. What people like to tell you is “you’ll be okay”.

They say things like “let it go”. “In 5 years it won’t matter, life will be better and you’ll forget”. What people fail to tell you, is that you’ll begin to wrap your world around this trauma you have suffered from. They never tell you that it won’t go away, and that some days you’ll even have nightmares about reliving it. You’ll even dream about things being better, only to wake up to the same traumatic realizations.

They don’t tell you how much it hurts. They don’t tell you what to do when you’re at a gathering and all of a sudden that traumatic experience burst back into your mind. Now you’ve fallen down the rabbit hole of anxiety, wanting a way out, and feeling like you’re not good enough. They never tell you how to become worthy of self love again. They just keep saying “accept it, and know your worth”.

What if my worth it tainted by my traumatic experience? Who will understand, and how can they understand, if they are not me and have never gone through such things, but are hired to help me “get over it” or “let it go”? What does that even mean? Get over what? The pain, and suffering, the unfulfilled promises.

Getting over the flashbacks. How is that truly and undeniably possible all on my own? So we’re often scarred for life. Wondering when we’ll ever feel normal again. Unfortunately I wrote this, without thinking of how I too was able to let things go.

Oh wait….I’m still not over it.

This is the reality. You end up just living with the bullshit experience until it has less power over you. Just remember to be prepared for it to creep back up on you from time to time, until you cycle through the part where you can live with it again and back to trauma and living again and again and again.

The End.