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choihanna OP ,
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It's on my dating profile actually, but I guess a lot of people don't understand what it means when they read it.

choihanna OP ,
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Of course they're chasers, but I feel like this goes beyond that. These are dangerous people I'm talking about, I've been threatened by them just because I refused to have sex in the first date.

choihanna OP ,
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Oh I'm very aware of that, I'm very open about being asexual in my profile. Honestly I wouldn't even mind having to try and have sexual interactions with a partner I love. But in the first date? Threatening someone and yelling at them just because I refused to have sex makes me think a lot of dangerous men look for trans women because they think we'll put up with the abusive behavior cis women don't.

choihanna OP ,
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It means that I go on dates without disclosing that I'm trans before I feel safe to talk about it.

choihanna OP ,
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Yes they're definitely chasers but I feel like it's something more than just fetishistic nature. They think trans women will put up with things that they do that cis women don't that's why they persue us and when we're just like any other woman they show their true face.

To be honest I'm a very sedentary person but doing more exercise is something that everyone should do. I was very skinny as a teen but now I'm 21 and estrogen started to act differently in my body, I gain more weight specially on the hips and bottom. But it also makes me gain acne if I eat sugary foods. Kinda like my body's telling me I'm not a teenager anymore 😅

choihanna OP , (edited )
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I'm not even going for them, it's just how Taimi is made. Yeah I should stay stealth even in dating, I'm good with the normal straight men I don't have a desire for men "into trans chicks" specifically

choihanna OP ,
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You've only been 10 months on E? Girl I've been on E for 9 years, give it time so your body develops with your hormones. I didn't notice anything for years 😵‍💫

choihanna OP ,
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Men into "gock" are just closeted gay men, not just "chasers" . But I think these terms are kinda subjective

choihanna OP ,
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YES! That's what I'm saying. I don't understand why people in the comments are reducing it to them just being chasers because this type of behavior is beyond that.

choihanna OP ,
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Why would I get murdered if I'm not having sex or kissing. Again I'm asexual...

choihanna OP ,
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They're not really expensive, I care more about how the dress fits in my body and how it looks on me. I'm just so poor that even cheap 30 euros stuff leaves me broke

choihanna OP ,
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Both, I don't get what dating apps have to do with this

choihanna OP ,
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I know, but don't pretend to want to know me or be my friend when you're actually not.

choihanna OP ,
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It's not even just relationships, it's friendships

Falling out of love with nail polish the farther I get into transition. Is this normal?

Putting on black nail polish used to be the highlight of my week in the early days of transition and way before I came out. I was never good at it, but I liked how it looked on me and it felt like a way to get control back in my life in one of the few ways that I could. ...

choihanna ,
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For me it was the complete opposite, I didn't like nail polish, heels etc for years until now, nowadays I use a curling iron everyday, get my nails done, wear heels. You just go through phases and phases in your life it's not about being trans

Uglier guys won't treat you better.

All my life I've been led to believe that unattractive men will treat you better or are more genuine. Mainly movies like The Hunchback of Notre-Dame and many others where they depict a pretty girl with an unattractive male partner/protagonist where she falls in love with him because of the way he treats her. ...

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Exactly, I'm not attractive either but I don't think I'm a better person for it. Being good in a relationship is about being mature enough.

choihanna OP ,
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Well it was just an example of a cultural stereotype.

choihanna OP ,
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The problem is that I'm 1.60m and I've been harassed previously in an airport at broad daylight. That's why I'm a bit scared to do this but I think I'll stay by the police department

choihanna OP ,
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I'm not really attracted to trans men, but I do know a lot are very handsome just not my type.
The thing is, I don't disclose it directly on my profile, only on that note, so the interactions are like these:

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choihanna OP ,
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What does take charge mean? I date older men, I'm sorry but if a 40 year old man wants to be taken care of by someone half their age... Sorry but that's not the kind of man I'm looking for